Mom bought the dress & HATES the idea of TTD - do it anyway?
Posted 20 April 2009 - 06:15 AM
My mom bought my dress for me (which, BTW, was only $350 on sale at David's Bridal) and even though I really am appreciative her gift, she was none-too-please tonight when I told her that I really think I want to wear it to do a TTD. She's rather old-school in her views, and instead of being excited for me, she thinks the idea, and I quote of "wading in the ocean and rolling around in the sand in the wedding dress for the sake of a few photos is preposterous!" Initially, before joining BDW, I sort of shared her thinking, but after seeing all of the awesome pics that members have shared, I think TTD pics are an amazing opportunity to have really beautiful photos captured for a lifetime of memories -- should I say to hell with it and do it against her wishes?!
Maybe I can find a cheapie dress to do the TTD, but I am already going to have a 2nd shorter dress for the reception -- I don't know what to do!
If anyone else has run into this problem, your advice (or what you did/will be doing) would be much-appreciated!
Posted 20 April 2009 - 07:11 AM
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Posted 20 April 2009 - 07:38 AM
Best of luck to you.
Posted 20 April 2009 - 08:19 AM
mmmmm, we could call it "shoreline canoodling"!!!
Posted 20 April 2009 - 08:24 AM
| Originally Posted by michellepicksbrent |
Because your mother paid for the dress, I would respect her wishes and purchase a cheapie dress for a TTD photo session. At least this way all everyone will be happy, IMO.
Posted 20 April 2009 - 09:29 AM
Also, my photographer actually calls these sessions "Love the Dress" becuase they really play off the wedding dress and since the dress is rarely ruined (unless the bride chooses to ruin it) as a result of the photo shoot.
If you cannot sway her, I would say try to find a cheaper TTD dress online or for sale second hand. At least this will help keep the peace - you get the pictures and you have not risked the dress
Posted 20 April 2009 - 10:00 AM
I agree with the others also though, if she still has these feelings wear your short dress for TTD or buy a cheaper dress, there are lots of options!
Posted 20 April 2009 - 10:03 AM
A gift should be given with no strings, which I'm sure is how she intended it. She would never look at you and say "I bought it, I forbid you to risk it" because it was given out of love and she realizes you are an adult. Do your best to educate her about the experience and let her know that it will likely be just fine regardless. If you still feel guilty about it, give her the $350 and do what you want.
Sorry if this sounds harsh, I am just a big believer in doing everything regarding the wedding based on our wishes as a couple and no one else. I love my mom and respect her more than ANYone on this earth (including FH), but in this subject, it's not about her and I can't make "big" decisions just based on her happiness.
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