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#1 JaimeLynne

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    Posted 15 April 2009 - 03:23 PM

    So, what is the proper etiquette on this?

    My MOH is throwing me a bridal shower coming up the weekend after next. I have already paid for her room deposit ($100), 1 night stay, and I'll be getting her handmade foot jewelry + a 30 minute massage the day of the wedding. I also have these little necklaces that are for bridesmaids - they are in a cute little package and have a little heart tied on a string. When the string breaks or the heart falls off, you make a wish.

    Do I need to give her a separate gift for throwing this shower? She is hosting it but I don't think it will set her back too far because I am providing the wine myself (slight eye roll there) - well, actually my Dad was nice enough to step in and provide that. I know she is on a tight budget though so I understand, but it's been a challenge working with her on this (she hasn't kept me in the loop too much and is just now sending out invites).

    Ok I went off topic (guess i needed to vent a little - hah!). If I do give her a gift, do you think the little necklace is appropriate? (Only cost about 8 bucks) Should I throw in a bottle of wine around $10?

    What do you think?

    Also - I have an "in-town BM" who is throwing my lingerie/bachelorette party the following weekend. What should I get her since she is not going to the wedding? I'm thinking I should probably get her something since she's not getting gifts like the other girls who are going... maybe the same thing - one of those little necklaces + a bottle of vino?

    My Aunt is helping host the bridal shower (it will be at her place), and my Grandma is also throwing me a little bridal luncheon with several of her friends, FMIL, my sister and my aunt. I am thinking for them nice, handwritten thank you cards would be appropriate...



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    We all stayed at The Marriott in P.V., and Honeymooned at The Royal Plantation in Ochos Rios, Jamaica!


    #2 Kristy!

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      Posted 15 April 2009 - 03:44 PM

      I would just do thank you notes for everyone. I'm not buying gifts for everyone involved in throwing my shower.

      #3 JaimeLynne

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        Posted 16 April 2009 - 03:00 PM

        Bump.

        Any more feedback?

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        "Rain or Swine! 2-0-0-9"

        We had 24 people attend our wedding in Las Caletas, Mexico on May 24th, 2009!

        We all stayed at The Marriott in P.V., and Honeymooned at The Royal Plantation in Ochos Rios, Jamaica!


        #4 beachbride08

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          Posted 16 April 2009 - 03:23 PM

          My aunt and cousin threw my shower. I got them each a $50 gift certificate for a pedicure at Nordstrom Spa because I know they both like to go there. I handed out my bridal party gifts at my shower as well. They helped set up the shower, but didn't contribute financially. Everyone got thank yous after the shower. I think a small gift of appreciation would be a nice gesture, but I don't think it has to be expensive. The necklace and wine would be a nice gift.
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          #5 tylersgirl

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            Posted 16 April 2009 - 03:37 PM

            My friends are throwing my shower and I got them all bags with spa wraps, flip flops, mugs filled with cookies, and luggage tags, etc. I am just sending my family members who are helping a thank you note. I think just a little something would be nice. It already sounds like you are doing a lot for MOH for the wedding. Hope that helped!

            #6 JaimeLynne

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              Posted 16 April 2009 - 05:10 PM

              K - thanks for the feedback. Also, when do you give them the gifts?

              ~ Jaime & Martin ~
              "Rain or Swine! 2-0-0-9"

              We had 24 people attend our wedding in Las Caletas, Mexico on May 24th, 2009!

              We all stayed at The Marriott in P.V., and Honeymooned at The Royal Plantation in Ochos Rios, Jamaica!


              #7 ~Debra~

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                Posted 16 April 2009 - 05:45 PM

                I was the MOH in my friend's wedding and I got a nice hard written note and I will be doing the same for my girls when they throw my shower. I'm going to write them each a nice note saying how much I appreciate and love them. That's it.

                #8 tylersgirl

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                  Posted 16 April 2009 - 05:54 PM

                  You're welcome! I am planning on giving them the gifts before the guests arrive at the shower

                  #9 drtracy

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                    Posted 16 April 2009 - 06:47 PM

                    My shower was this past weekend and I gave my hostesses (my mom, sister, FMIL & FSMIL) tank tops that I made for them to wear in Cancun. I also gave my BMs their tank tops as they helped with the day and they planned my bachelorette.

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