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We originally planned to get married 8/29/09 but needed to move the date back to next year. The low season in Jamaica begins 4/15 and rates would be better for everyone so I chose 5/1/10. When I told FI he said his parents date is around that time but wasn't sure of the actual date, low and behold that's their date. So we decided if we use that date we need to run it pass them to see how they feel about it. At first I was getting on FI about not helping and decided not to even mention things to him but suprisingly last night he suggestd we go talk to his parents about using the same date. So we did and his father is on joke time 24/7 and didn't give us a straight answer. Since we didn't get a real answer I'm now looking at other dates. Now I myself would not have a problem with somebody having the same date unless I already had big plans for my next anniversy. Next year is thier

45th anniversy and they had a big party for their 40th that FI and his sister threw, not sure what they were planning. I thought it would actually be nice and was hoping to do some kind of tribute to them at our ceremony. My question is what would your response have been or how would you feel about a friend or family member sharing the same date?

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I don't think it is a big deal to have the same date although, like you said, looking ahead if either of you plan something big for your anniversary you'll always have to keep in mind that you are sharing the date which could maybe cause some obstacles.

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I don't see why it would be a big deal. We were thinking of getting married on my parents wedding anniversary. Have they mentioned anything about plans for their 45th? If not, and they didn't openly object to it when you asked then I would say go for it. If you're still worried about it maybe you could have your FH talk to them alone and see if they give him a more straight forward answer...

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I agree with FutureMrsSharpe and maybe your FI should talk to them alone to see what they think. I think if it were my situation my parents would have been flattered that we could share something special on the same day.

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Thanks ladies, we did think they would feel honored and again his father is a big jokester neenerneener.gif, he has done this to me, so we're just waiting to see if they say anything. I'm not sure if FI discussed anything about us getting married with his father before yesterday, like one on one, but I know he did with his mother cause she asked me about it. He cuts his father's hair every other week so the next time he cuts it I will ask him to discuss it with his father. His mother is a sweetheart and very easy going, that's how she tolerates his dad, LOL, so she probably doesn't mind at all. I will let it go untill the 1st of may because I want to put my website up then, so we'll see thanks agian, gosh I love this forum!!! thewave.gif

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I would feel honored, however remember form now on you will be competing sort of for the same date. If they plan a 50th anniversary, where will it at that point, leave you and DH celebration wise??

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I went through the same thing...my fiance and I are getting married on my sister and brother in law's anniversary. I did the same as you and ran it past them and they said they didn't care, that they were honored we chose that date. If his dad is always a jokester I think you are fine. Choose a date that makes you happy!

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