It happened.. I was let go from my job.

[Betsy]

So sorry you have to be going through this right now Shannon.......we are all here for you to vent/talk/cry to....hope you are doing allright.

[Yari]

I am so sorry!

[sunsetbride1]

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Originally Posted by katrina i was laid off about 2 months ago, and dealing with it emotionally is the toughest part so don't feel bad about that. i didn't even like my job, but i was still devastated. give yourself a week or two to feel like crap, then just stop. do your best to not let it go longer than that. look for a job and be aggressive about it, but still let this be an opportunity to do some things you never had a chance to because you were too busy. chances are, you'll never have this much free time until you retire! i wrote this in your other thread, but i'm in nj also, so if you have any questions about the unemployment process let me know.

Thank you so much! I worked in NY.. so I just filed online for unemployment in NYS. Hopefully everything will go through okay.. a part of my package was that they would accept any unemployment claims in addition to my severance.
So, I get a week or two huh? Okay, that I can do ... I feel the same way; I loved what I did but absolutely hated the job so its just shocking me that I feel so horrid emotionally about the whole thing.

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Originally Posted by JaimeLynne Oh no, I am so sorry Shannon. My FI was let go from his job on NYE day. We have so many other friends and family members who have been let go since. He took it as an opportunity to go back to school, which is working out well for now anyways. It really is tough, emotionally.

I am sorry that happened to you and FI!!! And.. so glad that you were able to turn it into an opportunity!

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Originally Posted by carly Wow, I am so sorry. And honestly, you are allowed to feel bad emotionally! It's a sucky situation, no matter how well you prepared for it, it's still hard. So you have to let yourself go thru those feelings. Let it all out here, that's what we are here for. {Virtual hugs to you}

Thanks Carly... I am not good at being sad or feeling depressed and not having a job. It's just not in my nature. I have had a job since I have been 14 years old; I just feel useless not working but at the same time I can't make my brain do anything just yet.

[sunsetbride1]

And thank you Sarah and everyone else.. I think it just helps to hear people say it will be all right because I just can't say it to myself right now.

 

I keep beating myself up wondering what I could have done better at work to avoid this; even though they told me it had nothing to do with performance.. it was seniority in my position.

 

Ugh.. I am even annoying myself with my little black cloud. Thanks again everyone!

[1elephant]

i'm sorry shannon...i have no good advice to give, but if you need a drinking buddy, i'm only one town away!

[tylersgirl]

I am so sorry Shannon! I hope things only get better for you. I will be thinking about you! *Many Hugs*

[JUSTUSTWO]

So sorry to hear this Shannon! Here's hoping that your little black cloud goes away very soon & that you find another job that you really like!

[SunBride]

I'm so so sorry to hear this. It hits me harder than it would have 2 months ago, because just under 2 months ago my husband was laid off. It was devastating to him. He never thought there was any chance at all of that happening to him.

 

He got really lucky and got offered his job back a week later. It was totally crazy. They signed some contracts that put them in a position to rehire 1/3 of the people they had laid off, and he was one of them. His friends weren't so lucky. However I think most of them have found jobs by now. Our good friend was one of the ones permanently laid off, we felt so bad as he has 3 kids and his wife doesn't work. But he found a job after 1 month and is actually now making more money and he had gotten 12 weeks severance and was only out of money for 5 weeks so he actually has more money than before.

 

Sorry to go off on a tangent, just trying to get your hopes up that something good might come of this. You may find a job you love more and/or make more money.

 

In the meantime, I say, you have 1 weeks to sulk and feel sorry for yourself, after that try to take advantage of the extra time you have to spent with your FH and to plan for the wedding! There are a ton of idea for beautiful (and cheap!) DIY projects on here. Before you know it you'll be working again (and wishing you had more time for wedding planning!)

 

Good luck!

[SunBride]

I'm so so sorry to hear this. It hits me harder than it would have 2 months ago, because just under 2 months ago my husband was laid off. It was devastating to him. He never thought there was any chance at all of that happening to him.

 

He got really lucky and got offered his job back a week later. It was totally crazy. They signed some contracts that put them in a position to rehire 1/3 of the people they had laid off, and he was one of them. His friends weren't so lucky. However I think most of them have found jobs by now. Our good friend was one of the ones permanently laid off, we felt so bad as he has 3 kids and his wife doesn't work. But he found a job after 1 month and is actually now making more money and he had gotten 12 weeks severance and was only out of money for 5 weeks so he actually has more money than before.

 

Sorry to go off on a tangent, just trying to get your hopes up that something good might come of this. You may find a job you love more and/or make more money.

 

In the meantime, I say, you have 1 week to sulk and feel sorry for yourself, after that try to take advantage of the extra time you have to spent with your FH and to plan for the wedding! There are a ton of idea for beautiful (and cheap!) DIY projects on here. Before you know it you'll be working again (and wishing you had more time for wedding planning!)

 

Good luck!

[sunsetbride1]

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Originally Posted by lauren i'm sorry shannon...i have no good advice to give, but if you need a drinking buddy, i'm only one town away!

Thanks Lauren!! I may take you up on that offer.. where do you live?

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Originally Posted by tylersgirl I am so sorry Shannon! I hope things only get better for you. I will be thinking about you! *Many Hugs*

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Originally Posted by JUSTUSTWO So sorry to hear this Shannon! Here's hoping that your little black cloud goes away very soon & that you find another job that you really like!

Thank you both!!! The hugs all help.

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Originally Posted by SunBride I'm so so sorry to hear this. It hits me harder than it would have 2 months ago, because just under 2 months ago my husband was laid off. It was devastating to him. He never thought there was any chance at all of that happening to him. He got really lucky and got offered his job back a week later. It was totally crazy. They signed some contracts that put them in a position to rehire 1/3 of the people they had laid off, and he was one of them. His friends weren't so lucky. However I think most of them have found jobs by now. Our good friend was one of the ones permanently laid off, we felt so bad as he has 3 kids and his wife doesn't work. But he found a job after 1 month and is actually now making more money and he had gotten 12 weeks severance and was only out of money for 5 weeks so he actually has more money than before. Sorry to go off on a tangent, just trying to get your hopes up that something good might come of this. You may find a job you love more and/or make more money. In the meantime, I say, you have 1 week to sulk and feel sorry for yourself, after that try to take advantage of the extra time you have to spent with your FH and to plan for the wedding! There are a ton of idea for beautiful (and cheap!) DIY projects on here. Before you know it you'll be working again (and wishing you had more time for wedding planning!) Good luck!

Thank you Sunbride!! It's great to hear others stories where it worked out to their advantage.