Amount of ppl going - am I too sensitive??
Posted 29 January 2009 - 06:04 AM
Posted 29 January 2009 - 08:57 AM
For many couples a destination wedding is something planned months in advance, sometimes years. But who knew 12 months ago, or even 6 months ago that money would be so tight and employment shaky for so many people?
Hon, I know it sucks that many people won't be able to afford to make it to your wedding, I think every bride deals with similar issues. My FI's best friend/best man will likely not be making it for that same reason (his wife is also a BM, their son a Junior GM, and their daughter my FG -- yep sucks!!!) BUT if a DW is what you really want and you truly only care that your immediate families are present, then you shouldn't change your plans. This is your day, keep your sights set on the "must haves" on your guest list.
Yes there are some who have huge guest lists, if all my peeps come through we will have 100+ people, right now we're at about 70. There are some things that are good and bad about that -- such a huge crowd should make for a great party, but I'm the type who will stress that all 100 are having a good time and will probably let so much pass me by A smaller wedding on the other hand gives you a sense of intimacy, and with less people you will likely capture and remember every special touch, smile, laugh, word, etc. Yanno the important moments?
All weddings are different and special in their own unique ways, embrace those who will be joining you and know that no matter who is there, you will have a freakin fabulous time
Posted 29 January 2009 - 09:20 AM
Posted 29 January 2009 - 12:28 PM
Think of it this way...you're having a DW because you want something small and intimate, special and frozen in time. Your wedding will be so special that only the fewest and the closest get to be there to witness YOUR private moment.
And by the way, the smaller the group, the easier it is to plan a private excursion or a sunset cruise or some other "thank you" gift for your guests (if you were thinking of doing that).
Posted 29 January 2009 - 12:46 PM
Posted 29 January 2009 - 12:51 PM
Posted 29 January 2009 - 12:55 PM
Posted 29 January 2009 - 02:35 PM
IMO, it's nothing to be sad or fret about.. It's the nature of a DW and just think of how much time you will be able to spend with those that do come if you have less people.
Posted 29 January 2009 - 02:44 PM
Posted 29 January 2009 - 03:54 PM
Just a thought..if you want more of your friends/family to come, it might be a good idea to wait a little longer to get married to allow people time to save. We gave our guests almost 1 years' notice...not sure if that made a difference or not.
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