Originally Posted by CourtandMatt
Two big questions:
1) Does anyone have a daily activity list for IRHS and IRHB?? I would like to start formulating our week schedule based off of the activities they have going on at the resorts, but I don't want to bug the WCs. If no one has one, I will email the resort when it gets closer.
2) Cost question: Do we pay the cost of the wedding and the reception dinner when we get to the resort? And, is that put on credit card? Also, how about the flowers (Tai Flora) and musicians. Do they all take credit card or cash and when do we pay them? I am just wondering what to plan for. I even ordered a no foreign transaction fee card for all of these expenses! Again, if no one knows this answer, I will ask the WC as it gets closer.
Sorry for all the questions on a Saturday morning! Hope everyone is having a great time planning!!
Daily activity list? No idea. I would let it just fall into place when you get there. Planning too many activities doesn't make it fun anymore and can burn one out. I read on Oyster.com that IRHB sells day passes to cruise ship travellers and the resort fills up with these people which makes it noisier and more crowded than usual and also hard to get drinks, etc. If concerned you should read up about it on Oyster's IRHB review. Supposedly the Suites & Grand are not affected by this. Personally, I would find out what day of the week this is and plan an excursion to get away from that commotion.
From what I read you pay the wedding costs the day before your wedding. It is in the paperwork somewhere although I understand it is hard to keep on top of everything. I believe it goes on your credit card. Tai Flora charges you a 4% commission if you use your credit card. I heard one bride write in her review that she wanted to pay Tai Flora in cash to save the 4% but was refused. I think the other way they except payment if you are paying them from home is by wire transfer. I paid in full to get rid of the expense and bit the bullet and paid by CC. I read that you pay the musicians in cash on the day of their performance. Don't forget tipping!! I found a few different articles for destination weddings stating who you should and should not tip and they are not all consistent which is frustrating. Such as: tip the minister?
1) If you're using a nondenominational officiant, no tip is required because they will charge you for their time.
Protocol: Expected (depending on officiant) The $tandard: Donate $500+ to the church or synagogue, or, for a nondenominational officiant, an optional tip of $50 - $100
2) To tip them is to trivialize their profession and extremely bad etiquette. Generally you pay your fee and that's it. If you wish to make a financial contribution to the church, you can do that separately. $100-$200
... and there were a few more articles going back on forth on this. I asked the WC and was told you may tip if you wish. Also, Oyster.com states that they found IRHS staff seemed to pressure the guests to tip.
I'm getting married one month from now at IRHS and will definately put up a review when I get back.