Uninvited guests - please help..
Posted 29 November 2008 - 03:28 AM
but I have a question --
Did you guys invite everyone with guest or only people with significant others?
We're sort of torn about what to do - I know people are making a long trip to our wedding so I guess they should be able to bring a guest, but our resort is not all-inclusive and we are going to be paying $200-300 per guest for the weekend (reception, welcome party, farewell bruch) and we are intentionally having a smaller destination wedding...
I don't know if I'm being selfish, but I don't want to pay for random people or have random people at my wedding.. but one of my single friends already told me she's bringing her sister and I didn't know what to say...
Am I being ridiculous Maybe I'm just annoyed she didn't even ask if it was okay
Posted 29 November 2008 - 03:45 AM
This worked pretty well with us because the people we invited by themselves are all friends with each other so its not like they don't know anyone else or won't have anyone to room with etc. We're a close group so it worked.
Posted 29 November 2008 - 04:27 AM
It may work out in the end because a lot of people say they are coming and then don't, so maybe you will have room for the sister. Or maybe she won't be able to come at all, but right now thinks she can. Things always change with guests right up until the day they leave!
Posted 29 November 2008 - 04:59 AM
Posted 29 November 2008 - 05:49 AM
And we don't even have our save the dates printed yet..
For her, if she asked I would probably have said yes...
But now I decided when we print our invites, we're not adding +guest for anyone.. If we don't even know a significant other's name, they're not invited..
Although sometimes I wish we stuck with our original thought to elope alone
I guess I'm certainly not the only one dealing with this
Posted 29 November 2008 - 09:28 AM
- Be very offended if they can't bring their significant other or travelling buddy. I know I would. The wedding is one day out of generally a week and they may not know other guests or be comfortable sharing a room with an acquaintance.
- Not realize there are extra costs since it is an AI. I've had to explain to a few people that our wedding is not free and we are paying above and beyond the wedding package we purchased for each extra person if we have more than 24.
- Choose not to come because they can not pony up the price of a single supplement room which they may have to do if they have no one to share a room with. I know for us a single supplement room was $460 more for the week. Try not to be too disappointed if this is the case.
For most DW, 3/4 of the people that say there are coming won't be there even when they RSVP and book, especially with this economy. We did allow for people to bring guests, but made sure people knew we had to know far in advance because of the extra costs associated for us and that if we really didn't know them well we'd prefer if they didn't attend the wedding activities parts of the week we have planned.
Posted 29 November 2008 - 11:28 AM
Posted 29 November 2008 - 12:00 PM
One of my old friends from university is coming with a close friend of hers who I know of, but don't really know and have never really hung out with.... I'm wondering now if that will be strange, and/or if everyone will integrate well. When it comes down to it, I'm just really happy this friend is coming to the wedding, and if it means there's going to be this person I barely know there as well, I'll deal with that!
I think a lot of people don't realize that there are costs to you with DWs, per guest. Your friend probably didn't realize the expense, and was just getting excited about the trip and your wedding.
Posted 29 November 2008 - 12:07 PM
I found that most of the people that said they were coming didn't anyways so even with inviting extra people we still have a small group
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