Posted 05 November 2008 - 01:54 AM
I might understand if it was a money issue or something, but he vacations often enough where he should be able to make the effort. The fact that he is already declining your at home reception really concerns me! It is a year away...how can he say he's unavailable?
I'm sorry you have to deal with this...the DR is beautiful and you will have a wonderful time. I know it's difficult, but don't let him ruin your dream wedding...
Keep us posted on how it all turns out...
Married July 16, 2009
Aventura Cove Palace Resort
Riviera Maya, Mexico
photo by Misti Douglas
Posted 05 November 2008 - 01:58 AM
There was a question as to whether it would make me feel better to confront him about it .. honestly, no. I've confronted him about several things over the years, all of which involved his wife coming before me, and I've never won the argument. So really, at this point, I'm thinking this takes the cake and I think I'm finally ready to admit to myself what I've known all along - my father never wanted kids and just did what he felt forced to do. Now that I'm an adult, he feels his role as Dad has been completed. I really noticed this once I finished school - he paid my tuition and gave me grief over it constantly for the full 4 years. Once I was done, the emails stopped and all of a sudden it takes a month to get a very quick reply. It feels terrible knowing that anything is more important than his daughter, and frankly I feel like he's being very selfish. If he didn't want kids, he should have said so BEFORE he and my mom divorced, so now I feel like he made his bed, he can lay in it, he's just not man enough to do it.
The biggest thing that goes through my head is thank Christ my daughter has a great father, and I'm so glad the old adage that women look for husbands like their father is the furthest from the truth in my case.
To all of you ladies in similar situations, I feel for you as well and hope everything works out in your cases. For me, I know no amount of crying will bring my father to my wedding.
Posted 05 November 2008 - 06:52 AM
Posted 05 November 2008 - 09:19 AM
Posted 05 November 2008 - 10:41 AM
Posted 05 November 2008 - 11:12 AM
Posted 05 November 2008 - 11:33 AM
He is missing out big time and he will regret it one day. Do what makes you happy and do not listen to or worry about the people who are selfish and thinking about themselves instead of you on your wedding day.
Posted 05 November 2008 - 11:44 AM
Luckily, you're right, my mom can, and WILL, walk me down the aisle. That's actually the second thing she said (after shrieking vulgarities lol), is screw him, I'll walk you down the aisle.
Posted 05 November 2008 - 01:45 PM
I definitely feel for you because your situation is hard. I agree with you though on not calling or pushing the situation anymore. It's very sad, but as people get older, it's hard to change their mind. Enjoy your wedding and have the time of your life!! It's his lost if he doesn't want to be there. My husband and I went through the same thing with our destination wedding. No one from his family came. They kept saying they were trying to go. Let me add they had over a year to save and get on a payment plan for the trip. But then my husband and I talked about it and we are okay with them not coming. All my family came and we had a wonderful time and everyone enjoyed everyone's company. You will be fine and you will have a wonderful wedding!!
Posted 05 November 2008 - 04:28 PM
0 user(s) are reading this topic
0 members, 0 guests, 0 anonymous users