Just thought I'd share what the standard Ceremony script is there. Esman just emailed it to me. I think we will be writing our own. Its SOOO long.. is this typical? I don't think I'll last that long in the sun!!! On a somewhat related note, we're doing personal vows.. any one else doing personal vows? If so, how long are they supposed to be? Mine's starting to sound more like a speech than actual vows...
I would first like to welcome you to Puerto Vallarta. You have chosen a very appropriate location for this wonderful occasion.
We are here today to celebrate one of lifeâ€™s greatest moments, to give recognition to the worth and beauty of love, and to add our best wishes to the words that shall unite Amy and Jonathan in marriage.
Just as two very different threads woven in opposite directions can form a beautiful tapestry, so can your lives merge together to form a very beautiful marriage.
To make your marriage work will take love. Love should be the core of your marriage; love is the reason you are here.
But it will also take trust- to know in your hearts you want the best for each other.
It will take dedication- to stay open to one another; to learn and grow together even when this is not easy to do so.
It will take faith- to always be willing to go forward, never really knowing what tomorrow brings.
And it will take commitment- to hold true the journey you both now pledge to share together.
Marriage is an affirmation of life, an undying commitment, a spiritual, emotional, and intellectual bond between two people. It is created from the purest of friendship, respect and love. The institution of marriage is not entered into lightly, because it symbolizes commitment on every level. Together you will continue to meet the challenges and obstacles of life head on.
Marriage is also an adventure in the most intimate of human relationships. It is the mutual commitment of two people sincerely in love who share the same dreams about life. But more than that, it is the intimate sharing of two lives. It is a sharing that does not diminish but enhances the individuality of each partner.
Your marriage does not mark the beginning of a new relationship; rather, it is an acknowledgement and celebration, of a relationship that has been flourishing since you met.
You must remember that real love is something beyond warmth and glow, beyond the excitement and romance of feeling in love. It is caring as much about the welfare and happiness of your marriage partner as about your own. Love makes burdens lighter because you divide them. Love makes joys more intense because you share them. Love makes you stronger so you can reach out, and become involved with life, in ways that you dare not risk alone.
You have chosen to walk through life together. There is no truer statement of love. The choice was not made by any one moment, but by being together you grew to realize that you belonged together and that you fulfilled each otherâ€™s needs. You have come to thrive upon each otherâ€™s presence, loyalty and wisdom. The foundation of your love is profound friendship. A friendship you have nurtured until at last you realized that you wanted to be together always. The commitment you make today will be the foundation on which you will build your life together.
I would like to share with you a reading that I find describes what married life should be based on.
THE ART OF MARRIAGE
~ Author Wilferd A. Peterson ~
The little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through all the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice,
but in the spirit of joy.
It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.
Declaration of Intent
Jonathan & Amy, I invite you now to clasp hands, as you listen to your vows to each other. The hand offered by each of you, is an extension of self, just as is your mutual love. Cherish the touch, for you touch not only your own, but another life.
Jonathan, will you take Amy, to be your lawfully wedded wife? To have and to hold, from this day forth? Will you love, honour and cherish her, in good times and bad, in sickness and in health? Will you forsake all others, and be true to her, for as long as you both shall live? (I will)
Amy, will you take Jonathan, to be your lawfully wedded husband? To have and to hold, from this day forth? Will you love, honour and cherish him, in good times and bad, in sickness and in health? Will you forsake all others, and be true to him, for as long as you both shall live? (I will)
May you both remain clear and true, to the important nature of these vows, and may you return to them frequently. Your marriage should be about the reaffirmation of these vows, day after day, year after year. In the future, happy occasions will come, as surely as the morning. Difficult times will come, as surely as the night. Looking back on your vows will help your relationship and family to persevere through the hard times and dance in the sunlight of life.
Presentation of the Rings
These rings are a symbol of the unbroken circle of love. It is also a symbol of the sun and the earth and the Universe, of wholeness, and perfection, and peace. These rings mark a long journey together. Wear them proudly, for they are symbols which speak of the love that you have for each other.
Jonathan repeat after me: Amy, I give you this ring as a symbol of my love. With this I wed you, and commit my life to you.
Amy, repeat after me: Jonathan, I give you this ring as a symbol of my love. With this I wed you, and commit my life to you.
Jonathan & Amy, today you join your separate lives together. The two separate bottles of sand symbolize your separate lives, separate families and separate sets of friends. They represent all that you are and all that youâ€™ll ever be as an individual. They also represent your lives before today. As these two containers of sand are poured into the third container, the individual containers of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one. Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the individual containers, so will your marriage be.
Amy and Jonathan, if there is anything you remember of this marriage ceremony, it is that it was love that brought you here today, it is only love which can make it a glorious union, and it is by love which your marriage shall endure."
(Signing of certificate)
And now, for as much as you have made your vows, each to the other, and have declared the same, by giving and receiving your rings, It is with great honour for me to now pronounce you Husband and Wife.
You may kiss your bride.