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Not ONE of my future in laws have booked yet!

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My FI's father passed away 2 years ago and his mother is in a home for althimers(sp?)....but he has 5 sisters and 1 older brother~ Not one of them have booked! You know we said in the very beginning that there would be no hard feelings, but now I wanna take that back! Now, I'm starting to take it personally. I just feel like they are just being ugly about it...and maybe just jelous of our lifestyle and how far we have come to make such a wonderful family of our own, new house, new cars... CAN'T WE ALL JUST GET ALONG?! and be happy for us?! Sisters.....it always has to be about THEM. All they have to do is put a small deposit down and kind of put the trip on lay a way! All of our friends have booked, and all of my family also..I know his feelings are hurt, I just feel bad for him at this point!

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ok, i feel somewhat better now! Thanks for letting me vent!

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I don't know if you read my post yesterday but I have somewhat the same situation but with my family. His family is going but mine is not so I totally know what you are saying. We gave almost 2 years notice to come up with the money and they don't seem interested. Im sure that your FI is feeling hurt. Im sorry for what you are going through. Just like what everyone here said to me....Its about you two and your special day. If they don't want to be part of it you both will have to accept it. Don't let them get you down. Its hard not to but you will see that maybe its not worth it to have them there if they aren't happy for you and they don't want to share your day with you. Good luck to you and we are here for you!!! Vent your little heart out!!! smile03.gif

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Leigh, maybe they are just not ready to book yet, you still have seven months I know there was just a special going on for you, but I think a lot of people will wait until last minute. Don't get freaked out about it until you are a little closer. Maybe have your FI mention it to the talker of the family to see what is going on.

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I wouldn't worry so much right now about it. You still have several months before you get married. Shoot I just book my own airfare about 2 weeks ago and our wedding is in 3 1/2 months.

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I wouldn't worry yet. NO ONE has booked their rooms for my wedding yet and it is in June. My room block expires in March. We just booked our flights about 2 weeks ago for ourselves. IMO you still have plenty of time.

 

I'm sorry you're feeling so badly about it. If you're really worreied about it maybe you or your FI could casually ask them if they plan to come or not. Then you'd have at least a better idea about their intentions.

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My FI's father passed away 2 years ago and his mother is in a home for althimers(sp?)....but he has 5 sisters and 1 older brother~ Not one of them have booked! You know we said in the very beginning that there would be no hard feelings, but now I wanna take that back! Now, I'm starting to take it personally. I just feel like they are just being ugly about it...and maybe just jelous of our lifestyle and how far we have come to make such a wonderful family of our own, new house, new cars... CAN'T WE ALL JUST GET ALONG?! and be happy for us?! Sisters.....it always has to be about THEM. All they have to do is put a small deposit down and kind of put the trip on lay a way! All of our friends have booked, and all of my family also..I know his feelings are hurt, I just feel bad for him at this point!
eeeeeeeeeewwwwwwwaaaaaaahhhhhh
ok, i feel somewhat better now! Thanks for letting me vent!
Leighhissyfit.gif
Leigh - don't worry! People will book when they get closer to the date. No one has booked rooms yet for my wedding and my wedding is 4 months before yours! To be honest even we haven't booked our rooms yet!

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Leigh I have a similar situation.

 

A few weeks ago FI got into an argument with his father, because for some reason his family always has to butt into our lives, when they should really just be concerned about their own. So anyway, his sister called and they argued, his brother called and they argued, the only one that didn't get involved was his mother.

 

So now he went from talking to his sister several times a week to not at all and he calls his brother, but I think his brother is taking his dads side, so even though he said he is going, he hasn't booked either and I think its for this reason.

 

I feel really bad for FI because my family is all booked and none of his family is. I want to mention it to him, but I just don't want to make him feel worse.

 

I think everyone is right though, we both have a lot of time. Because of the special I thought a lot more people would have booked too, but some people are booking on their own.

 

So we just have to remember that our wedding day is about us, and not about any of our inconsiderate friends or family.

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Well, we have discussed it with all of them....only one sister plans on coming, and she is even going to stay at a different hotel that the other 30 of us! I think just to make it about her....Thats why we planned it the way that we did....giving people a head start for the financial part of it! We even stressed in letters, emails, and phone calls that they could do like a payment plan with our TA once they put down a small deposit. It seems that everyone that were maybe's are def. coming! No response from any of them...except for the one that is staying at another resort! Don't ask why she is doing that!!!! I'm just trying not to think so much about it at this point, just can't help but to turn it into a personal thing with us!!!

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yea - definitely don't stress yet - i just booked my own room a few weeks ago, and haven't even looked at flights yet - and I am getting married in June. the majority of my guests haven't booked either - you still have time!

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well if they are going to be like that, then you probably don't really want them there anyway right.

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