Guests inviting guests?
Posted 22 April 2008 - 10:54 AM
This has happened to me twice now.
I invited my good family's friend, who instead of brinigng her two sons (like I thought she would) invited a lady I met once last year for about an hour.
Needless to say I was shocked but didn't really say anything. I just said, Oh well. The more, the merrier.
Well, my cousin just called me. She is coming with my aunt (her mother), who invited a person I have never met before in my life, to my wedding (who already bought her ticket). And my cousin just said, this friend (the one I've never met) has a friend w ho wants to come because she's never visited the island so if you have room, is it okay?
I find this really strange. Why would anyone just basically think this is okay to do? I didn't know what to say to her. Granted, I know it's a resort, where people go on vacation, but it's also my wedding.
I guess I'm just wondering if you guys have dealt with this or how you would deal with this?
Posted 22 April 2008 - 11:02 AM
I guess it would depend on your wedding. If you are having a semi-private reception that isn't costing extra then I guess it's not a big deal. But if you're having one that costs per guest then it's strange.
I suppose you could tell them that it's okay for these people to come on the trip, but unfortunately you don't have space at the actual wedding for them. So they can spend time with everyone for the rest of the time, but on the actual wedding day, they'll have to fend for themselves & find something else to do....
I dunno! Sorry I'm not more help! I wish you luck with sorting this out!
Posted 22 April 2008 - 11:09 AM
Posted 22 April 2008 - 11:13 AM
Posted 22 April 2008 - 11:17 AM
| Originally Posted by Kat81 |
I agree if you are paying per person I would tell them it is fine for them to come BUT the wedding is already planned for the people the invites were sent to. But they are more than welcome to kick it with you guys all week.
what is it with people thinking they can invite someone whose name is not on the invitation sent to them? i have had several cases of this. including my FSIL! she has been auditioning boyfriends each week to see if any of them could be her date for the wedding! she's a BM, so she wont have time to spend on the wedding day fussing with some idiot guy who she has barely been seeing, but knowing her she would abandon part of her duties to go be with whatever guy she brings. originally, she wanted to invite 10 friends of hers! we told her NO!!!!!!! its our wedding and we determine the guest list.
over this past weekend, the girlfriend of one of my FI's friends, whom i barely know, asked my FI for an invitation to my bridal shower.... ive met her once, a year ago, for about an hour at a BBQ. i dont know her and obviously she doesnt know anybody who will be at my shower... but FI insisted i send her an invitation because i was mailing all the invites out today for my stepmom (because i attached the address labels). he said she prolly wont come, but will send a gift. why dont people get that its not about the gifts? its about wanting your wedding stuff to be intimate with only the people you invite! i feel for ya!
Posted 22 April 2008 - 11:22 AM
I agree with what Kat said, too. Good luck!
Posted 22 April 2008 - 11:50 AM
Posted 22 April 2008 - 12:40 PM
I had this problem with some of my mom's family inviting extras to my shower (being hosted by someone they had never met). I had my mom call them - it's just not appropriate. You might do the same - it's unreasonable of them to expect you to host total strangers at your wedding when those strangers were not the "and guest" invitees.
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Posted 23 April 2008 - 07:29 PM
A friend of mine said the same thing to me I told him straight, bring who you want to mexico but they are not coming to the wedding and if you want them to you pay the what it will cost us lol
Its one of the reasons we are having a DW because FMIL will invite every bugger she has ever known in her life and it isn't happening, Its your wedding so you get to invite who YOU want. Don't bend under the pressure lol
Posted 23 April 2008 - 10:01 PM
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