| Originally Posted by JennyK |
I can guarantee she doesn't "want" my FI. It's the fact that before me, she counted on my FI for EVERYTHING. They always hung out, were each other's dates to everything.. and once I came into the picture, he wasn't as accessible to her. Now there was another girl in his life (me) and she had to be pushed to the rear. I don't think she liked that much. I honestly think that's why she's trying so hard to sabotage us.. because she wants her buddy back and be his "number 1" chick. He's made it very clear to me that he loves me and only sees her like a sister.. and its me he has to live with not her.
Ok, so this explaination reminds me of my relationship with Chris when we first got together, but the 'other' girl was his sister! Which was a little more sticky than it being a friend. She was insanely jealous because before me, they did everything together. It put me in a tight spot because I didn't want to deny them their bro/sis time, but it was Chris who was finally growing up and didn't want to go out clubbing every night of the week and spend more time with me.
A LOT has happened in 6 years and she STILL resents me. Oh well. What the hell can you do? I've tried being nice to her, be her 'buddy' but honestly, she's not a nice person, so what do you do?
Anyway, back to your situation. I like his idea of getting together the 3 of you to talk. Either for out to dinner or out for drinks or whatever (dinner at your house might seem like you are ganging up on her). It's a great idea to clear the air between the 3 of you to be sure that you are all on the same page.