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Suprise from FMIL is throwing off my whole "day of" plan!

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#1 Can'tHardlyWait

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    Posted 14 March 2008 - 10:43 AM

    Sooooo... my FMIL called me this week with a surprise - she is bringing 2 people from NY to do hair and makeup for the entire wedding party! It's super sweet and super generous... and I am totally excited because I know the people that are coming are really good... one less thing to worry about :)

    However... as much as I appreciate this, I now have to coordinate hair and makeup for: 9 bridesmaids, 2 mothers, 2 grandmothers, 2 aunts, and me! Originally, I figured I would email everyone the spa list from the resort and let them decide if they want to do hair/makeup and then schedule their own appointments. Now that its only 2 people doing 16 people (and who would turn down free hair and makeup) I have been charged with setting a schedule...

    I know what youre thinking, whats the big deal, right? Well, I did a prelim schedule and with that many people, appts started at 830am! Mexico May weather + 830am hair and makeup = atleast 7 or 8 unhappy girls...

    How do I make this list without making atleast half my wedding party hate me?!?! Some of my bridesmaids are only coming in for 3 days - I dont want to ruin anyone's day by making them do hair and makeup so early in the morning... help!

    #2 boscobel

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      Posted 14 March 2008 - 10:48 AM

      So generous! But damn, that does really stink, you do not need that added stress. How about getting the time that you need, since you are the most important and then asking a BM or MOH to assign the other times? Or give your FMIL the list of people and let her assign the times? Did the makeup and hair people give approximate times for how long it would take? Or someone has crazy long think hair, they should probably get started early...

      #3 LisaW

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        Posted 14 March 2008 - 10:50 AM

        That is sooo sweet of your FMIL!!! But I defintiely see your scheduling issues!!! And my goodness you had it all worked out, so I feel your pain with the sudden change of events!

        Who was paying for the hair/make-up before this? If there is any money remaining in the budget from that, maybe there is a way to supplement the 2 NY hair & make up people with maybe a person from the hotel spa? The 2 NY people will still do the bulk, but maybe adding one person from the hotel spa will enable everyone to start at 1 or noon instead of at 8:30? Just an idea!

        Good luck!

        #4 luv2love

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          Posted 14 March 2008 - 10:50 AM

          What if you created a blank schedule, emailed it off to everyone, and had it a first come first serve sort of deal? So whoever signs up first gets that time slot. That way it's not you choosing who goes where. I guess you would have to keep people updated though so that people don't double book. Just a thought.

          #5 Alyssa

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            Posted 14 March 2008 - 10:50 AM

            Galit - you can hire 2 girls from the Spa in Mexico as well?

            i have to be honest, 2 people is not enough for that large of a group - one of my best friend's is a makeup artist for YSL in NYC and she does weddings sometimes and she will never committ to more than 5 girls by herself!

            #6 BrittneyD

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              Posted 14 March 2008 - 10:56 AM

              I would definetly hire some of the resort's people too. If everyone was going to be paying for their own hair and make-up, maybe everyone could just pay half, so it is fair for everyone. I think it willl get really stressful having that many people needing to get their hair and make-up done by 2 people.
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              #7 JaimeLynne

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                Posted 14 March 2008 - 11:06 AM

                If you're worried about the bridesmaids getting upset I would have the grandmothers go first, then the aunts, then the mothers, then the bridesmaids and finally you.

                If you can get a resort spa stylist or two as well I would have them do the grandmothers and aunts and Mom, and have the "pros" do FMIL (since she's paying), bridesmaids and you. That way your bridesmaids and you will have the same caliber of work done.

                Good luck!!! I'm interested to hear how everything holds up in the May weather since I'm getting married 1 day before you next year

                ~ Jaime & Martin ~
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                We all stayed at The Marriott in P.V., and Honeymooned at The Royal Plantation in Ochos Rios, Jamaica!

                #8 melglnh2o

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                  Posted 14 March 2008 - 11:09 AM

                  That was very sweet of your FMIL but the gesture does come with some hiccups. I know I wouldn't want to get my hair done at 8:30am even if it is free. I would rather pay money to get it done later. But of course everyone's budgets are different. Perhaps you could ask the girls if some of them wanted to go early and get it out of the way. Otherwise I also suggest that you get one or two people from the hotel salon to assist with the large party of people needing to get hair and makeup done. It will be less of a headache on everyone especially you. You don't need any more stress on your big day. Good luck!

                  #9 ACDCDCAC

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                  Posted 14 March 2008 - 11:10 AM

                  Oh wow, soo generous, but man! What a spot to put you in!

                  I really don't like when people try to do something this nice for me without checking with me first. I think it's almost like an insullt or something! Altho it is a very very very nice gesture, it really is not something that sounds feasible! I'm sorry I don't have any advice for you, I just wanted to sympathize

                  #10 lucy106

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                    Posted 14 March 2008 - 11:11 AM

                    Wow!!! Quite a dilemma, its like "how sweet how wonderful" but "oh crap what a pain". Maybe ask the girls if they care. If they do then maybe they can go to the spa in a small group? What time is your wedding?

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