Confessions

[**Kat**]

LOL Manders!

 

Linds, you arent alone.. life gets in the way..

 

Getting drunk isnt a bad idea LOL

[cougs]

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Originally Posted by *Linds* Confession: DH and I are totally sucking in the sex dept. since we got back from our weddingmoon! UGH!!!!!!!!!!

don't feel bad linds, you are def not alone! and we're past the one year mark and despite toasting to more sex in year 2, we are still experiencing bigtime sex FAIL. we can't seem to make it happen more than 2-3 times a MONTH.

manders is right tho, you two have been super busy since the wedding. you'll get back into the groove in no time! plus you'll want babies eventually and then you'll be doing it with a purpose. T and i have pretty much decided we won't have kids, so we don't even have that extra incentive!

[*Linds*]

This is going off subject regarding confessions, but....

 

Cougs- when did you decide no babies?! You would make a great momma!

[MissSimone]

I'm not even engaged yet but I'm already seriously planning my wedding. I've even called the resort and spoke to a wedding planner. We do plan on getting married by 2013 though we just have to find better jobs first. My bf and mom say they think me being on this website and my early planning is a good idea. I hope they're not lying. LOL

[cougs]

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Originally Posted by *Linds* when did you decide no babies?!

well, *i* decided it a long, LONG time ago, then T came along and changed my mind on the subject, but now he and i agree that it's just not feasible or responsible to have a kid that he will never be around for, between school and work (both full time). and he's got at least 5 years of that ahead of him, after which i will already be 43. i was kinda blown away when he said it because i never expected it to come from him, but i have to admit it's sensible. i have no desire to be essentially a "single mom," especially since i'm not the one who really dreamt of kids in the first place.

so i guess i can make this fit the confession thread by saying i am just afraid that later, he will be full of regret and resent having married someone so much older than himself. we have discussed potentially adopting later, though.

[miss_delerium]

My FI and I aren't having kids either. And I confess I hate it when people look at me like I have two heads when I tell them that.

[cougs]

oh i know *exactly* what you mean ... and you're still under 30 so it's even worse for you (i know bc i didn't want any back then either)!

 

i don't know when people stopped abiding by "to each their own" and started thinking it was ok to impose their beliefs on others, but damn is it annoying!

[wendyjd]

Cougs and Miss Delerium, totally understand the feelings. I'm 37 and am childless and THRILLED with it. Had recurrent cervical cancer and at 32 was told to have one if I wanted one bc every procedure would make it harder and the "cure" was a hysterectomy. I was all for surgery but my now ex-husband tried to convince me to have a child. So fast forward 5 years, I'm cancer free, much happier and about to marry my best friend. My FH is thrilled with the concept of a lifetime together without the restrictions kids provide.

 

I understand that we may be the minority but more and more couples are choosing this... just read an article on MSN about the growing numbers of "childless by choice" couples.

 

I didn't mean to go on a vent but I totally agree with you.

[miss_delerium]

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Originally Posted by wendyjd Cougs and Miss Delerium, totally understand the feelings. I'm 37 and am childless and THRILLED with it. Had recurrent cervical cancer and at 32 was told to have one if I wanted one bc every procedure would make it harder and the "cure" was a hysterectomy. I was all for surgery but my now ex-husband tried to convince me to have a child. So fast forward 5 years, I'm cancer free, much happier and about to marry my best friend. My FH is thrilled with the concept of a lifetime together without the restrictions kids provide. I understand that we may be the minority but more and more couples are choosing this... just read an article on MSN about the growing numbers of "childless by choice" couples. I didn't mean to go on a vent but I totally agree with you.

Omigod it's SOOOOO nice to know I'm not the only one!! I've only met one other couple that is choosing not to have children - everyone else looks at me like I'm a weirdo for not wanting them. I jokingly tell those people that I'm just doing my part for the environment by not contributing to the planet's over-population problem by adding more people to use up more resources. Whatever...some people recycle...my FI had a vasectomy...either way...good for the earth

[BachataBride]

I REALLY want kids! And honestly, cannot imagine NOT having one! But I totally understand a couples choice not to have kids...it's a HUGE commitment & responsibility & it definitely restricts your life enormously!

 

My confession: I only have 2 girlfriends in the area (long story short I moved recently) & neither one of them want children...so I'm afraid of being friendless when I have a kid because I won't really have that in common with them