Okay...for you girls trying to talk your guys into it, here are a few things that may help.
I copied and pasted some of these thoughts into a word document one time and never did anything with them. They are random quotes from a couple of websites...
It is food for thought anyway.
How the tradition of not seeing each other was startedâ€¦
In Medieval times, a bride and groom were not even allowed to meet each other until the actual wedding ceremony. This was so neither one could back out if, when they saw the person, they would not want to be married to them! This ancient custom has carried forth to the 90's where now people feel it is bad luck to see each other before the ceremony. In fact, there is no basis to the success or longevity of a marriage if the bride and groom wait to see each other until the ceremony.
Reasons to see each other (found online)â€¦
It is a special moment when the couple first sees each other. When it is done before the ceremony, they can talk to each other and express how they like the way the other one looks! This is what each one wants to know anyway, but a ceremony itself is not the place for a bride and groom to talk to each other and tell each other what they are thinking. The moment they first see each other also makes a wonderful candid photo!
It adds to the stress to not see each other and it actually reduces stress when the couple DOES see each other first.
When the flowers, hair, make-up and clothes are all new and fresh is the best time to take pictures. This can be especially true for a hot and/or humid day.
The bride and groom can choose any location within a half hour drive of the ceremony to take pictures. There are many beautiful spots that have water, trees, flowers, grass, nice sky, impressive architecture, etc. that would not be practical to visit after a ceremony.
â€¢The air is filled with an electric anticipation of the dayâ€™s events to come.
â€¢Afterwards, things happen; People hug, People cry. Mascara runs, lipstick smears, and flowers wilt.
â€¢People's thoughts turn toward other issues. 'how fast can I get out of these shoes', 'this is a hosted bar, right?'
â€¢This moment is likely to be the last opportunity until the evening is over for a private romantic embrace.
â€¢This is the very best opportunity, for us as your photographers, to capture the thrill of you seeing each other for the first time.
â€¢Everyone cooperates because everyone is relaxed.
â€¢What about the Grand Entrance?!
â€¢Won't this idea 'kill the thrill?' Hardly, but don't ask us, ask any bride or groom.
â€¢When the music begins, the guests rise, and the bride appears and walks down the aisle to meet her groom, the beautiful vision many brides dream of, remains intact.
â€¢In contrast, the few who have waited with rising anxiety don't clearly remember the experience.
â€¢Stage fright is rampant, formality is the rule.
â€¢The groom is standing at the altar - how can he be himself?
â€¢He can't kiss you, can't tell you how beautiful you are or how lovely you look in that dress.
â€¢Hugs aren't generally allowed, but with a private moment before the ceremony he can do all that and more.
â€¢Perhaps the first time that the bride and groom see each other can be richer when it's for their eyes only rather than on a stage.