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Originally Posted by foxytv View Post
OMG! That is crazy. I think FH needs to be tortured and hung by his toenails for not telling you he had given this *un-necessary* information to his family. Wow, that puts you in quite the pickle.

But only after beating FH over the head with a frying pan.
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Originally Posted by Mrs.B 2008 View Post
wow galit i would be really mad at my FI if he put me in that position!!!! WTF?
eek - not cool of FI! definitely use the frying pan.

what guys don't get is that the relationship between a DIL and MIL is very delicate. or often is anyway. mothers don't forgive (or forget) things the DIL says/does quite as easily as they do their son. so the son (your FI) blows it off saying ... "it's no big deal, she'll forget about it" ... well, not likely! you poor thing!

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eek - not cool of FI! definitely use the frying pan.

what guys don't get is that the relationship between a DIL and MIL is very delicate. or often is anyway. mothers don't forgive (or forget) things the DIL says/does quite as easily as they do their son. so the son (your FI) blows it off saying ... "it's no big deal, she'll forget about it" ... well, not likely! you poor thing!
I KNOW!!! I called him immediately and the conversation went like this:

FI: Hi, cant talk right now. in a meeting
Me: like hell u cant talk. Apparently you LOVE talking... talking isyour favorite. You had plenty of time to talk to your dad. Now you will talk to me.
FI: Sh*t

And then I proceeded to go off. The funniest thing is, I said all of those things when I was really really really pissed off at her, and now I am totally over it. To have it come back 2 freakin weeks later sucks so bad because now in order to do battle I have to regroup and remember all the stuff that pissed me off!smile35.gif

I definately dont want FI's rediculous, "you are sleeping on the couch tonight" worthy screw up to go to waste though. She needs to know that she can't just push me around and then guilt me into saying everything is ok

So.... I am going to take Betsy's advice and down a couple glasses of wine... and then prepare for battle smile67.gif

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Haha Galit you are hilarious! Wine heals all, so yes, drink up and I bet it won't take long to remember why you hated her when you said those things...LOL Good luck, don't beat up FI too much. He was probably sticking up for you in a man-ish way, but you deserved a heads up at the very least!!

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I have to say do not back down. Pretending that you were PMSing or some other girly excuse just puts you in a position of being weak and you are not. Stick to your guns and explain why you feel the way you do. She deserves to hear it.

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oh galit. shit. WTF was your FI thinking?!

 

i guess just stay calm and tell her you dont hate her, but you do feel like she's overstepped her boundaries as a FMIL in your wedding planning business. she needs to realize its not her wedding, so whatever you do is your decision, and if she views your choices as reflecting poorly on her, shes going to have to swallow that and keep it to herself. i feel you on wanting to tread somewhat delicately because she's paying for the wedding, im in the same situation. your FI REALLY needs to be there to back you up on this stuff though, not rat you out -- no matter how mad he is at his dad, what you say about each others parents should always stay behind closed doors. ugh. sending you a big hug! let us know what happens when her phone charges!

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I went through something similar but with MY MOM. Imagine the Jewish mother guilt coupled with last daughter getting married (the first did not marry a Jewish boy and had minister at her wedding). So this was my mom's last chance to show off before her friends and I screwed it all up by having a DW.

 

However, now she is showing all her friends my pics and saying that her daughter is the SMARTEST bride there ever was. Because she chose to get married in paradise and that my wedding was so memorable and unique, while her friend's kids weddings were all so same.

 

The whole thing is pretty funny actually. My sister and I still giggle every time we hear her brag to another girlfriend.

 

So my advise is just breathe, get a good photographer and wait for the accalaides. Because from what I've learned about Jewish mothers is that if they can't beat you to their will they will claim you are the best thing since ice cream!

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