boys...aren't they funny? I think length is really a matter of preference. I tried on fingertip veils with my dress, and they worked well to show off the layers at the bottom of my dress. If I was not getting married on the beach, I probably would have gone with a finger tip. But I knew I wanted something longer for the breeze/wind photos. I wanted chapel or waltz length, but couldn't find one at a price I was willing to pay. In the end I bought an inexpensive cathedral veil with a beaded edge on eBay. I haven't tried it with my dress, but it's similar enough to the ones I tried on and liked in the stores. The beads really don't add any weight, but I'm sure you could add some larger ones to the very bottom to hold it down.