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my thoughts exactly...at least she knows now and heard from us and nobody else...like i say i'm happy for FI. Just looking forward to planning the wedding now...i think i would have said no if she offered to pay because she would have tried to control the whole thing. are any of you ladies buying pressies for your bridesmaids etc. and if so what. i was thinking of just doing a spa day for my bridesdmaids, mum and i suppose MIL, but now i'm not sure if that is enough and i should maybe get pressies.

We skyped MIL on Sunday to confirm that the wedding will be in Mexico. As you ladies know she wasn't too pleased when we were considering Mexico, so FI told her that he knows she may be upset but we have decided to go to Mexico and if she can't come then he understands. I swear the woman has got a screw loose because her reply was 'why sweetie why would you think i'd be upset and wouldn't come, Mexico sounds like a wonderful idea, i've always wanted to visit there'...WTF, this is the same woman that asked me 'Don't you want me to come to your wedding?' when i told her we were considering having it in Mexico because it is soooo difficult for her to get from St Lucia to Mexico (even though she visits England 4-5 times a year). She then asked when it will be and i told her July 2012 and she said well why so long and i said because we are paying for it ourselves and we need to save the money, then she says 'well surely you have some savings that you can use 2012 is so far away'...i swear this woman just rubs me up the wrong way. I decided it was best for me to leave the conversing to FI after that...I am obviously happy for FI that she is coming but I am so bloody glad she lives in St Lucia and I do not have to deal with her on a daily basis. grrrrrrrr

oooh maracas are a great idea, keep us posted if you find any. i am sooo loving those shoes x aaah how beautiful that your dress brought tears to your eyes...that's when you know its the one. x i have been thinking the same thing about taking pictures, I will be giving each guest a disposal camera so that they can take pictures during the reception and then give them to us at the end of the night...the more pictures of our special day the better. xx

Nicy that's fantastic news...it's so exciting xx i love your dads saying, everything MIL upsets me i'm just going to think that...hahahaha Vicki, they do say that no news is good news, I have everything crossed for you hun xx Michelle, your MIL is just wrong, I don't understand how people treat children differently it is just cruel, but like you say Harrison will see her for what she really is when he is older. xx Josie, your fans are fantastic, i love the shade of blue...my colours are blue and white xx love them, love them and love them some more....I am loving the colour even more and what a bargain xx

yeah you found me, we are now fb buddies x

I am loving the crystal boxer knicker idea. Sorry to hear you're feeling so low, I know it is easier said than done, but try not to let things get you down. I know that you want everything to be perfect but it will be no matter what little things are missing the main thing is that you and FI are getting married with your family and friends there to share your special day, nothing else really matters. xx

Hi Nicy i just tried looking for you on facebook, but couldn't find you, add me Charmaine Thomas, my profile picture is me (in black) and my daughter (in purple)...the rest of you ladies that are on facebook can add me too if you want. oooooh your things came, was just wondering how the bra thing was...does it work properly?? I am quite big chested (34G) and all the dresses that I am like have a very low back, but I need to have some sort of support so don't know what i'm going to do there

Oh Michelle, everything you have said describes exactly how i feel...it is nice to now i'm not alone...and what is all of this treating the kids differently just because they are not your blood grandchildren, at the moment me and FI do not have our own child together but the minute we do if she dares to treat my daughter any different I will go mad!! Thank god for this website and you girls, i don't know what I would do sometimes if I didn't have you to talk to. Thanks xx

Vicki I agree that things suddenly change when you announce you are getting married....on FI's side only SIL has said congratulations nobody else has bothered and same as when we got engaged.

What is wrong with these MIL & SIL? I believe it is a jeleousy thing, they suddenly feel threatened that there sons/brothers have another woman in their lives. I say screw them, the weddings will be better without them there anyway. We are skyping my MIL today to confirm that we are going to Mexico. I'll let you know how it goes!!

Forgot to say the thread is called 'Any Brides from the UK'

Hi new bride to be 81, I notice that you are from the UK, I too am getting married in (July) 2012 and am experiencing the same problem, the prices will not be out until May 2011, which is a huge pain. However, as some of the other ladies have said it just gives us more time to plan and prepare. I started a thread on here specifically for UK brides, there are a great bunch of ladies on there, come and have a chat with us sometime. xx

Oh Michelle, your MIL sounds just as bad as mine. Me and my MIL and BIL had an argument over 2 years ago trying to arrange FI's 30th birthday. I had started to arrange a 'surprise' family dinner at a nice local restaurant which is his favourite, but MIL and BIL wanted to go to a big plush restautant in Chelsea, that is just not my FI, i knew he wouldn't like it, so I told them so, but they turned it all on me and said after everything he does for me the least I can do is spend a bit of money taking him out to a nice restaurant. WTF!!! They then took everything out of my hands and wanted to arrange the dinner on his actual birthday which was a Wednesday and at 8pm in Chelsea which is a good 1hour drive away from our house. I said that they were being unreasonable because FI has to get up for work the next day at 5am and on top of that my daughter (who was 12 at the time) has school. They said can't i get a babysitter and I said 'no' FI would want her to be there she is after all his step daughter and he wouldn't want to celebrate at a 'family dinner' without her. Well that was it she went mad and proceeded to shout down the telephone at me that my daughter is nothing to do with her son, she is just that, my daughter and until the day we get married she will never be classed as his step daughter and she is not prepared to mess up her sons birthday just because his girlfriend (of 6 years may i just add) can't sort herself out and find a babysitter for her child. In hindsight I should have gone absolutely crazy, but I told her that I will be ending the phone call and i put the phone down. BIL was on her side and within 1/2 hour he was at my house to shout and argue with me some more, again I stayed quiet heard what he had to say and then asked him to leave. He then called FI up and told him about the 'surprise' dinner and how i had ruined it all. By the time FI called me I had broken down in tears. It was a horrible time for us because I felt like he wasn't sticking up for me but he felt like he was stuck between his mum/brother and me. He did tell them that they are never to talk to me like that again but I will never forgive them especially his mum for what she said about my daughter. I speak to BIL now only because FI and him are quite close so I have no choice but it took me well over a year to say hello to him but i'm making an effort for FI. Thankfully MIL lives in St Lucia so I don't see her, this year May was the first time I had seen her since the argument and needless to say there was atmosphere. FI took me,my daughter, and MIL out to dinner but the conversation was quite strained. We mentioned about getting married in Mexico and her response was 'Don't you want me to come to your wedding then?' to which I asked what does she mean and she said 'well it's so far, why not come to St Lucia' I didn't bother to answer. She also kept making comments about when will we have children because she has always wanted a daughter so would love a granddaugter, which was really getting me annoyed because my daughter was sitting oppostie her. MIL and my mum have never met in the 8 years we've been together, MIL is very stuck up and thinks because she owns her own house and business she is better than everybody else, my mum is from a working class background. They are due to meet when MIL is over next in September and i'm not looking forward to it at all, i just hope for MIL sake that she doesn't make my mum feel uncomfortable, otherwise there will definitley be fireworks between me and her. I always knew that she didn't like me but FI kept telling me it's in my head, but i knew by the looks and certain comments...I honestly don't know what it is that i done but I think it is because I have a child and her and BIL think that i have tied FI down...who knows though, it used to really upset me but now I just don't care...i'm not marrying her i'm marrying my Wayne and that's all that matters at the end of the day. Not sure how it is going to work in Mexico really....maybe she'll decide she won't come!!! Wow i've written an essay for you all...but like Michelle said it's nice to get it off your chest and know that the ladies on here don't judge you. Thanks for listening xx

My wedding is still 2 years away, so there is not much I can buy at the moment, but I think the wedding planner is a great idea and it will keep me occupied for a while. x

Michelle, I know exactly how you feel, me and my MIL do not get on at all, we had an argument over 2 years ago whilst trying to arrange FI 30th birthday...she said some unforgiveable things to me and has never apologised for them. I'm lucky that she now lives in St Lucia, but whenever she does come over to visit I try to avoid seeing her as I can't bear to be in the same room as her. I am also dreading spending 2 weeks away with her, but I just keep thinking that it is our day and there is nothing that she can do to ruin it. Stay positive hun and just concentrate on you and FI xx

Josie, I absolutely love your 'wedding path' it is a fab idea, love the STD too xx

Hi Vicki I am studying to be a Chartered Accountant and will hopefully be qualified by June 2011. The studying has helped in getting the new job but once i'm qualified I should hopefully be able to move up into a higher position. I get my exam results on Friday for the last lot of modules, fingers crossed I passed otherwise it will be resits in December aaaarrrrgggh!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by Soon-to-be-McRae Hey Ladies Well after a few family issues i have lost a bridesmaid (sister in law) and a flowergirl (niece), i am absolutley gutted because i would have loved for them to share our special day with us but after the comments that have been made towards me from fiance's mother and sister this will not be happening! As well as all this going on my day has been full of filling in job applications and c.v's because i am currently unemployed at present and jobs seem few and far between round here so i am hoping i hear back from them soon as i could do with some positive news and then i can get stuck in to some real planning :-) but for now still counting down the days until we can book which hopefully wont be to far away. Vicki x Vicki I am so sorry to hear about your family issues, I have major problems with my FMIL and BIL, we fell out over an argument trying to arrange my FI's 30th birthday nearly 3 years ago. I know it is not nice but you just have to think that it is only about you and FI and nobody else, don't let them upset your special day. I am sooooo sorry about you losing your job I didn't realise and there I am rattling on about getting a new one...I really hope that something comes up for you soon because I know how hard it is being out of work. xxx

ooooooh I forgot to share with you ladies that I applied for an internal job for the next level up from what I do now (i'm a Finance Officer), I had the interview on Tuesday and found out on Wednesday that I got it....I am now a Management Accountant...woo hoo I am so happy, not only did I need a new job as I was bored to death in my old one, but the money is a big step up to, which will help because Wayne got his days cut down to 3 days a week and I was worrying about how we would ever pay for the wedding. Now all I need to worry about is if I can actually do the job they just hired me for...lol

Quote: Originally Posted by *lyndsey* Hi All, Not sure how I have previously missed this forum!! I'm from Newcastle & we are booked for Azul Sensatori for May next year, can't wait! We booked with Thomson but are still waiting for our wedding date to be confirmed. So far there are 40 of us altogether and most of us are staying in the same hotel. It's a mixture of family & friends. What about you lot? Have many people booked up yet? The forums on here have so far been really useful so hopefully this one will be too! x x x Welcome Lyndsey, nice to have you with us...this is a fabulous thread, full of ideas, i'm sure you'll pick up loads...wow 40 guests thats loads how lovely. I actually started this thread but at the moment I am the last lady to get married in July 2012...it feels like a lifetime away, but everybody said that it will go quickly. We started telling our friends and family over the last few weeks and other than a few people most have been positive, but circumstances change and until we come to book next year we won't know how many people will actually be coming. So glad that you've joined us xxx Quote: Originally Posted by josietoms These are my shoes..... the photo doesnt really do them justice but they go with my dress perfectly. lovely shoes josie, they look like they are a perfect match for your dress x Quote: Originally Posted by Nicyx As for shoes well for the ceremony im wearing barefoot sandals, i havent actually got a proper pic of mine yet, just one of them flat out. its on my to do list to take one on my feet but i will do that at a later date.... i made my own in aqua and white, below : i just post this pic of some i found online so you get the idea of what they look like on Then for the reception im going to wear these UNLESS i can find them in AQUA.. which i am hoping to do but i bought the white ones as a back up incase i cant find any i like in AQUA!!!! xox I absolutely love your barefoot sandals, i think it is a fab idea x Quote: Originally Posted by Soon-to-be-McRae Josie your shoes are lovely where did you get those from? I am thinking of wearing sandals or bare foot for the ceremony and putting heels on for the evening, not sure for the bridesmaids yet will probably be sandal/flip flop between the toe type ones lol these are the ones i am thinking of. Vicki I love these too, I love the jewells on them x Quote: Originally Posted by michelle2011 As for shoes i am wearing heels, high heels. We're not having a beach wedding (will just take em off for the beach photos).. i love heels and can't imagine getting married in flats.. although i also love my flat sandals.. so i will just wear the same ones for our AHR... welcome back Roo ;o) I am definitely a high heel girl too, I am only 5 foot 1 inch so I feel frumpy without heels, I only own 2 pairs of flats out of about 60 pairs of heels (bit of a shoe fetish) Quote: Originally Posted by Soon-to-be-McRae I am wondering if it would be easier getting married at the gazebo so everyone can wear heels lol We are getting married in the Gazebo, at first i thought it was pointless having a destination wedding if you are not getting married on the beach, but then I saw the Gran Caribe Gazebo and we fell in love with it, it just seemed more intimate and a bonus is I can wear my heels. xx

Quote: Originally Posted by Nicyx Well in that case I will get one anyway so we can both pass ours around (if need be) and we just have to make sure you have mine.... so there is your something borrowed? :-) yes you will definatly get yours back :-) What a lovely thing to do with your nans birth year... Lovely x xox I think that is a wicked idea, count me in, although I am the last so far to get married but i'll send it back to you I promise. Quote: Originally Posted by roxmysockz Ok taking on board what you said Nicci... I just ordered them! So I ordered the sta I only plan on getting married once and I want favours people will love and re-use!! I also really wanted a starfish for my bouquet but every site I found wanted ridiculous shipping $65 for a $15 starfish! I found a website that has the bottle stoppers and the starfish that wants only $18 shipping! rfish Starfish Bouquet Jewelry - 3 colors Andddd a fuschia and orange garter to go with my wedding colours woop Darling Duo Fuchsia/Orange Garter Also great Idea to get a list going of UK brides!!! xx I am loving the starfish bouquet and garter...thanks for the link i've seen a few things that I'm going to order. Quote: Originally Posted by josietoms So heres the current list of UK brides............ 2010 July 2010 Woodsylou 30/07/10 Moon Palace From Bishops Stortford Sept 2010 roo6 6 03/09/10 Zante, Greece From Lenham, Kent Oct 2010 Mrs Price 2010 05/10/10 Riu Tequila From Gloucester Dec 2010 yeya99 30/12/10 Gran Caribe Real 2011 January 2011 jodieP (Jodie) 11/01/11 Riu Caribe From Glasgow janapana(Joanna) 12/01/11 Riu Tequila Living in Spain josietoms (Josie) 24/01/11 Catalonia Riviera Maya From Tunbridge Wells, Kent March 2011 BecaJ 26/03/11 Gran Porto Real From Luton April 2011 Jacqui April 2011 Moon Palace From Liverpool roxmysockz (Kerry) 08/04/11 Dreams Riviera Cancun From Billericay, Essex May 2011 JoanneIreland May 2011 Barcelo Maya From Ireland Nicyx (Nicola) 06/05/11 Riu Palace From Warrington - living in Annan June 2011 Michelle2011 (Michelle) 01/06/11 Barcelo Maya Palace From Welling, Kent Waybuloo (Lisa) 02/06/11 Gran Bahia Principe Tulum From London July 2011 leonie1986 07/07/11 Casamagna Marriott, Cancun Lynsey 25/07/11 El Dorado Royale From Glasgow November 2011 Soon-To-Be-McRae (Vicki) 12/11/11 Gran Caribe Real From Blackpool 2012 char79UK (Charmaine) July 2012 Gran Caribe Real From Croydon wow didn't realise that there were so many of us Quote: Originally Posted by Woodsylou LOVE them! so brillia hey! welcome! where in the UK are you? i get married at the Moon Palace NEXT WEEK! YEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEHA!!!! Thank you!!! I am mega excited! it's my last day at work today, look at my desk!! have you thought about buying things out there? i am worried about weight, so im getting my tea lights, shot glasses and star fish from wallmart out there! it depends on your airline. im with thomas cook. out hand luggage is only 5kg and 23x17x11 so there's no way i can take my dress on as hand luggage. but we did get a free suitcase up to 20kg for wedding 'etire' only!

Quote: Originally Posted by Woodsylou what about then a voucher for them to do something on their own together? i feel very odd. shakey. it's not wedding panic, it's more holiday stress you know?! trying to ensure we have everything and we can get it all packed etc! i will feel so much better once we're out there! Wow, can't believe you'll be going soon. just enjoy every minute of it and bring us back lots of photos. xx

Quote: Originally Posted by BecaJ I've just booked my wedding yesterday for March 2011!! We booked through First Choice for the Gran Porto Real. Yay I can't wait! It's so exciting to have it all finally booked, now I can do the fun parts like the dress, OOT bags etc. Congratulations x

Quote: Originally Posted by michelle2011 yah my bag came...now i just need MOB, MOH and bridesmaids ones to come... Michelle, I am so loving that bag...where did you get it from? x