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Yael your dogs are beautiful! I've always wanted a husky with one blue eye. Can't wait to get a house so we can finally have dogs:)

Here's mine! My baby that still lives with my parents because he is too high maintenance and spoiled for apartment living:)

Yeah me too. I don't mention that I did but somehow he still knows, guess you can't mask the smell too much. haha, no I can't say that I would but then again I'm kinda past the making him jealous part. I have however bought myself flowers just put myself in a better mood. Then he thinks I'm hinting that he should buy me more flowers but really, can't a girl buy herself flowers once in awhile?? Have you ever... Gone to a bar or out to dinner by yourself?

haha no I don't think I have enough tatas to make it worth anyone's while. jk. Have you ever...tried to hide a bad habit from FI?

My MOH just happens to be blessed with large...you knows. So she'll probably be wearing a dress that is a halter or has thicker straps just so she can be comfortable and then my other ladies can wear something else.

sorry for the double post, I just now realized I did that and it won't let me delete or edit it anymore.

Quote: Originally Posted by karenk77 you're right yet again so you're saying do nothing and just keep ignoring both and eventually they will go away? lol It sounds so simple but yes. Sure your friend that you were close to may be a bit hurt and take a little while to get over the drama of it but unless she is willing to really make an effort to work on your friendship, she can't blame you for that. Either things will die down and she'll be back to the friend you thought she was, or eventually they'll just find something else to make a fuss about.

In that case I would go with the first one. I would totally wear that dress myself:)

The question is how busty are your bridesmaids? That matters a lot. If they are all different or are pretty busty, I would go with 2. If not, then 3.

Smooth by Santana and Rob Thomas We're going to learn the tango and have some dramatic choreographed dance to surprise everyone. It will be funny because though I love ballroom dancing movies(but never done it), FI is a manly man football player and it will be hilarious to see his moves:)

Smooth by Santana and Rob Thomas We're going to learn the tango and have some dramatic choreographed dance to surprise everyone. It will be funny because though I love ballroom dancing movies(but never done it), FI is a manly man football player and it will be hilarious to see his moves:)

I know the feeling. I haven't had an omg this is it dress. But I have found two that I absolutely love. But of course I find faults in both and how they look on me. So I'm making myself decide between the two.

I just got this crazy idea in my head a couple days ago that I wanted Amazing Grace played by a cellist while I'm walking down the aisle. We're not very traditional but my mom used to sing it to me while I was falling asleep when I was little and it has always just given me chills. And I love the sound of the cello. I just don't know if it is right for a wedding, what do you ladies think? Our first dance is going to be Smooth by Santana and Rob Thomas. We're learning the tango to go with it and surprising everyone with it. Pretty sure we're going to make it as dramatic as possible and do it at both the reception and AHR. Just for fun.

Quote: Originally Posted by karenk77 its true..and i thought i did that when she posted the comments, i answered it squashed it and moved on..but now my friend is going crazy and this one is trying to befriend me.and im ignoring them both but its annoying. Thank god i graduated kindergarden and i was blessed with one face not two so i kind of want to tell them both to f*ck off with out saying a word lol LMAO yay for being born with one face not two. Just ignore them, it will piss them off more than you playing into their hands and making this a bigger deal then it should be. The more energy you spend on this, the less you have for you and FI.

No, I don't know if I'll ever be able to do it in either of their houses. Probably not even after we're married. Too weirded out. Would you ever... tell your FI that he has to take a shower or he isn't getting any?

I don't drive a car worth that much, not to mention wearing something on my finger. If you can and want to afford that, then good for you. But I am waay too forgetful and clumsy to have a single piece of jewelry worth that much. Honestly, I'm seriously thinking about sewing a hidden pocket or something into a piece of clothing or underwear.

No, as much of a broke college student as I have been, I have heard way too many ways that the procedure could go wrong and take away my ability to have children. I just couldn't do it. Would you ever buy baby clothes even while not expecting to have kids in awhile?

I completely get that. I have had to stop being friends with people because they just caused way too much stress for me wondering if they were there for me or not and what they meant by things they said and all that. But be encouraged by the fact that you aren't the only one that goes through this and know that they are only making themselves look bad and if they choose to not be there for you at your wedding, it is really their loss because it will be wonderful and you and your FI are going to be there with the people that care about you most.

Quote: Originally Posted by karenk77 they are both fake i realize now..what angers me most though is my friend because when i told her it was finally going to happen my dream of having it away( basically before people were doing dw's ever since i was a kid all i dreamed was having a wedding on the beach with my fam, and the roadblock was my fmil is afraid of flying so when she gave the go i called my friend) and she said such nice things i teared up like she would do whatever it took even if it meant coming for a day just to share that day with me, im the sister she never had, well grow old together..like i was so touched my her words i called my mom and repeated everything and teared up like a jerk..then again i cry at commercials so it doesnt take much lol and she was hating on the one that made the comment(they met once through me) so badly that i was even like calm down its not that serious..so now they are friends..the whole thing is bizarre and i know i shouldnt care but its pissing me off..not that they are friends i could care less about that but how its all happening it just disgusting me and now im getting im's from the other one..i dont answer but still lol whats wrong with people?? What's wrong with them is that they are treating friendships like a popularity contest. Unfortunately some women don't get over that after high school and social networking sites make the problem ten times worse.

Quote: Originally Posted by karenk77 Maybe you're right but joke or not i think its stupid of her to say and her PM wasnt later it was 2 nights ago and that initially happened around march when my semester was done maybe because I am so super sensitive..but there were times before where i used to swallow crap from others because I was afraid to open my mouth..and today I just dont care to..the only people that mean the most to me are my family and my fiance and if anything happens there then i will talk until im blue in the face to clear things up..here? I am done with friendship drama long ago..i dont need 20 girlfriends or have my girls nights or whatever, im a totally diff place today..i have my few people i trust(whick keeps getting smaller lol) and thats it..cant be bothered..hard enough making sure your relationship is best as can be and everyone you love is ok..for everything else? I cant be bothered I've just been reading along with this and everyone has basically taken the words out of my mouth with, forget about the first girl everyone has that person who hears about your wedding especially a DW and starts hinting that they expect an invitation to try to guilt you into it. Funny how these are the people that would probably forget to invite you to anything of importance in their life because you just aren't that close. I just wanted to say to not just start blaming yourself for being too sensitive so quickly. I am a lot like you in that I give and give of myself because I do everything with passion especially friendships and relationships. And for years I would tell myself that I was just taking it too personally when a friend that I was there for would not reciprocate or would make little biting remarks about things that they should be happy for me about. In the same way, while it is understandable that some of your friends may be friends with people that you dislike or are no longer friends with, there is a thin line between them talking about you and them not being a loyal friend. If this line gets crossed, sometimes you just have to give them the benefit of the doubt. But if it is also combined with a lack of enthusiasm for the joys in your life, or if they let you down as a friend in many other ways, then their friendship is more of a hindrance to you and your happiness. At the same time, understand that your wedding is a lot more important to you and your FI (and all of us ladies here on BDW who love hearing all the juicy details) then most of your friends and even family and just because someone does something to offend you pertaining to your wedding because they're focusing on themselves, doesn't mean you should automatically revoke their invitation. I may be completely off but for what they said to be that big of a deal, maybe you should be taking a good hard look at your friendship and really see if this is as big a deal as it seems or if their is other things going on with your friendship with this friend then just this. Sorry for writing a book...I get on my soapbox sometimes when it comes to talking about friendships and people not being treated the way they should be.

Monday, 5:51 PM Just got off work now back in my pjs and not really feeling labor day when I had to work all day and then have nothing to do tonight until FI gets off late:/

Quote: Originally Posted by SSNM Oh clap..I mean, snap! That just made my day. lmao

Quote: Originally Posted by DSHayes Update: He has been sleeping/watching tv since 1:00 pm (afterwork)..I cooked dinner offered him a plate, shook his head no.... So I went out for a mani/pedi...came back still sleeping, hasn't touched food... I guess we are not talking yet... One good thing is no matter what we vowed....NO ONE WILL SLEEP ON THE COUCH... So tonight I will accidently touch his feet with my fresh painted toes and see what happens....(wish me luck)... I hope things will get better for you two. And good for you, you'd be surprised how effective playing footsie or snuggling up next to him in bed can work to make him change his grumpy mood. I know this may be the last thing you want to do but in the same way that it meant something to you that he still grilled you a steak, maybe you should do something for him like go get him his favorite beer or something like that. Or if you're feeling really antsy to get him to start talking to you again, you could always resort to putting on something sexy and just sitting in the same room with him doing something like reading a magazine. No man in his right mind, even if angry, can ignore that. It's kind of playing dirty but we all have our womanly wiles for some reason right?

I think he planned it that way considering I'm always connected to people via text or e-mail thanks to my BlackBerry addiction.

Check out Zac Thomas. He lives in NC I believe but he flies anywhere in the United States for no extra charge. He has an awesome style and I'm just itching to book him for our wedding. Here's his website. zac|thomas photographer - Home-1