Well, I was in a similar situation, but I'm having a 10 yr vow renewal. We eloped the first time around and I was also going to have just the 2 of us for a destination VR. I booked my resort and the ceremony and makeup artist, but in the end I decided to stay here and have my ceremony. I couldn't afford to take my kids, and I just felt too guilty about doing it without them there to witness it. In the end, I found it's going to be more expensive to have it here, but not too much more. And I feel better about having my family to witness it.