first of all, it makes me feel good to know that i'm not the only one having to deal who has to deal with a baby momma from hell!! i think we all need to start our own thread where we can just bitch and complain about the stupid, selfish and inconsiderate things some women can do! at least it would be therapeutic! rest assured that you will be a much better mother and wife than she could ever hope to be!! it just seems like when it rains it pours though, doesn't it?
also, get your FI on here if he needs to see how cost-effective a DW can be when you create a budget, have lots of DIY projects, find deals on supplies and travel, etc. make it sound like it will be fun for him too and explain your reasoning for not wanting such a long engagement. keep us posted and i'll keep my fingers crossed that he gets some BDW-sense knocked into him!