Saraha

Quote: Originally Posted by Adinu in a weird way I'm feeling a bit better knowing I'm not the only one feeling this way Me too. I was worried that Im doing something wrong in the relationship or that Im not trying to make it work... I dont know hard to explain.

Quote: Originally Posted by Adinu I've been having a similar issue as well. I think in part mine has to do with the birth control pill that I'm on. Its a pretty common side effect. For the first part of our relationship I wasn't on it but after I started my drive has gone out the window. But I don't think its only caused by that so I don't want to blame all of it on the pill. Also, before I met my FI I was in really good shape. Running and working out with a trainer etc. I had a good eating regiment and I was really proud of the way I looked. Once I met Michael and I moved to Vancouver my workout/eating routine went out the window and I got a bit soft again. Since I feel gross about myself I find it hard to feel sexy and want to be intimate. I can't remember whether I read this somewhere or if I saw it on tv...but I remember a counsellor saying that for women their sex drive is influenced by a million little things, diet, body perception, emotional intimacy, stress etc... anything can sort of throw it off. Usually though its issues within ourselves that we need to workout. For me too, because we live together I find its easy to be lazy, and just put it off. Its hard with work, studying, workingout, keeping the house from falling apart etc.. to have alot of extra time, so its easy to say I'm tired and I don't feel like it...lol. Actually my friend was saying she never feels like it anymore but just does it anyways, because even if you don't really want to at that moment, you never say to yourself "oh boy I wish I hadn't done that" once its over. Chances are you are happy...so maybe the trick for me is to just suck it up and do it. As well as conituning to try and workout and get back on track with my body, because if I feel good it will show I think. That makes complete since to me.... when we first started dating I played volleyball 5 hours a day, ate healthy and was the best sheape I have even been in. Now I feel disgusting, I hate seeing myself naked let alone Kevin. I know that is the last thing he would think about but I personally and not at all happy. I too live with him and find that we can always put it off, "ohh Im tired can we jsut do it tomorrow" and we never do. But I completely agree with not only the Birth control but how you feel about yourself.

Hmmmm well not that Im happy you are having the same issue as me... at least Im not alone!

Quote: Originally Posted by becks It could be the BC. On the other hand, I think it's pretty common that women get comfortable and their sex drives drop a bit. I've got a good 14 years on you and I've found that almost universally, once you get really, really comfy with someone, that edge isn't as strong. Frankly, as long as the idea of sex isn't off-putting (ie., you dread it) you're fine. If you're really concerned talk to your Dr about it. She can change your BC, take you off of hormone BC (read: switch to condoms). [bTW, I went off the pill and switched to condoms and nearly killed FI with my renewed interest.] If in point of fact you're turned off by the idea, there may be some imbalance that can easily be corrected with a change in BC or other hormone replacement, but your Dr can tell you for sure. Ok well that is somewhat good news LOL. Im just worried becase as almost newlyweds and not being all over eachother kinda worries be. I may talk to the Dr about (afterall I do work in a dr's office all I have to do is walk ten steps ha.) But just feel bad for Kevin becuase hes going crazy wanting it all the time and dont want him to feel like I dont love him or want him Im just not interested... It wouldnt bother me if I waited till the wedding and its 2 months away.

Oh I didnt see one.... well we have been together over six year... I lost my virginity to him back in high school so since it was so new and fun and exciting back then it wasnt a problem prob for like 3 years it has though.

Ok so Im wanting to know what to do..... Im 24 years old and so is my FI. So obvioulsy at an age where this should not be an issue. But I have VERY low libido... I dont know what to do. I dont know if its the birth control Im on because I know that can be a side effect. And its not that i dont find my FI sexually attractive because I do. Anyone else have this problem.... I mean come on Were not even married yet and I already have issues!

Definetly!!! Or atleast I feel it and Im getting married in two months.... I cant wait and the other part of me is like OMG IM GETTING MARRIED!

I would just tell her the truth. Anyone would completely understand!!

SOOOO Pretty!!!

Those turned out so beautiful!

Im so excited fo you Heidi, you will make a beautiful bride and have and amazing wedding.... cant wait to hear all the stories and see all the pics!

Welcome to the forum Kristina!

Welcome to the forum!!!

HAHA OMG that would have not been good!

Welcome to the forum!!

Hi Shannon welcome to the forum!

We missed you Kate, Good luck with everything and cant wait to hear about the proposal!

OMG they turned out amazing, and what a great idea to use your veil... didnt even think of that, you look so beautiful.

Betsy you look so so beautiful!

Quote: Originally Posted by Adinu Saraha you've totally inspired me thanks! I got in touch with a photographer and I'm going to be doing it at the end of July (I need some time to get in shape). Thanks so much for posting these, I would never have thought of doing this for Michael. I think he'll be really surprised that I did though...lol YAY Im so happy that your doing it, you will be so happy that you did... and so will Michael ;O)

How fun, glad to hear it turned out great..... cant wait to see all your pics!!!

Good luck ladies.... wish I could vote for all of you! You all deserve it!

Just put my vote in, good luck everyone!!!

haha thats too funny!!

SO cute love it... and you feet are too cute!