Quote: Originally Posted by AnnR see - I just don't get that (waiting to tell)! of course it's a personal decision, but ask him this ... WHY does he want to wait?
the answer is probably "in case something bad happens." well, wouldn't he want to talk about that with those same people? that's how i determined who to tell ... like any friend I see on a regular basis, and close family ... thse are the same people I'd want to talk to if i had had a miscarriage. i didn't tell work aquaintences and stuff, but i also wouldn't talk to them about a miscarriage. make any sense? lol that's how we aproached it anyway. YES!!! "in case something happens", that's why he doesn't want to tell. WELL I have a secret. I had a girls night on Saturday - - and I told the girls there. I had too! I was the only one out of 6 that was not drinking.....they figured it out on their own. I didn't tell him that I told.
And yes, all of that makes perfect sense to me!! We will discuss it further after my 8 week apt., and hear the heart beat.