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I am so sorry for your loss, Heidi.

Quote: Originally Posted by PlayaNovia I don't think this is "crappy" at all. Just because other people have kids is not my problem. It doesn't mean I have to pull my hair out and accommodate their rug rats and make sure they have treats, a meal to eat and activities to keep them busy during me and my fiance's most important day of our lives. wow, seriously? No one said that you had to make special accommodations, but the fact of the matter is that unless you are shelling out the cash for each of your guests' travel I think that you're entirely out of line. If your guests choose to (or choose not to) bring their kids, that's absolutely their choice, just as it's their choice to attend your wedding. This debate seems all to similar to the "should I pay for my off-property guests" debate. The bottom line is this. When you decide to have a DW it's no longer your DAY. It's someone else's vacation time, money, and effort that they've extended toward being with you. In my NOT SO HUMBLE opinion, it's just in bad taste and awfully presumptuous to tell your guests with children that they can't choose to enjoy the vacation in whatever way that suits their family best. That's not to say that you can't have adults' only events, but to ask them to not bring children at all is just too much. And for the record, I am child free, and have no interest in having kids at this time. As I mentioned, when my husband and I were going to get married locally, we fully intended to have an adult reception. The last thing that I wanted was a bunch of kids running around, monopolizing the dance floor, and their parents' attention. When we moved our wedding to Mexico, we realized that was no longer a reasonable request. The kids that were around for our wedding were not at all obnoxious, and their parents understood and took necessary action to make sure that they [the parents] could enjoy the party without having to worry. In our case, they hired babysitters and sent the kids upstairs during the reception. I didn't even mention this ahead of time simply because I knew that I would enjoy the party the same, with or without kids. And 6 months out, I am so glad that I didn't stress out over this because with the perspective of time I realize how totally inconsequential it was. For the record the whole "It's my Day" argument doesn't sit well with me either. It's not your day. It's a day for you, for your fiance, for your relationship, your parents, siblings, your extended family, friends, and perhaps most importantly, depending on your belief, for G-D. good luck to you.

I would call and let them know that the location is not safe for children, but you would be happy to help them find local babysitting services. I'll be totally honest here though. I think it's pretty crappy to not allow people to bring children to your wedding/have a no children policy. I get it. it's your wedding. And when I was going to get married at home, I was going to have the same no children policy. But if people are paying a great deal of money to attend your wedding out of the country, I feel like it's their decision, not yours to make as to whether or not they bring their kids. They may choose to not bring them so as to make it fun/romantic vacation. Likewise, they may feel strongly that since this is the one big trip that they get to take they want their children on the vacation. I just think making it entirely adults only is a little over the top.

Wow, your wedding is going to be bigger than mine!!! Good luck! I will say that if your wedding is anything like ours was, people won't even notice the table decor. they will be far too busy drinking, dancing and socializing. So I wouldn't drive yourself crazy trying to find them. Nonetheless, I love your ideas. your wedding is going to be fab!

yikes!! First of all, you're expecting 175 people secondly, have you considered how difficult it's going to be to transport them? I mean, don't get me wrong. it's a fabulous look, but if you have to buy 175 even at $2 each + dragging them down there... whoa. that's a lot of work!! I am sorry, I don't have any referrals for where to find them :/

I did send an invitation to my photographers because they traveled from the US, they needed some of the event info, and I wanted their meal preference. I didn't send invitations to any of my other vendors. Those suckers were expensive!!!

I paid $5k which included: - engagement shoot - day before guys golfing (about 2 hrs) - rehearsal dinner (2.5 hrs) - 7 hours wedding day coverage. - all online proofing - one 28 side album 12x12 leather craftsman - 2 8x8 20 side albums leather craftsman - all images on hi-res disc - photographers paid their own travel (photographer and second shooter)

I am horribly pathetic and don't even know where my discs of wedding photos are, let alone have them uploaded, but I did have this one. I was looking for something NWR but was unsuccessful. Turns out, we don't hold hands that much! fun idea - I have had the same sig for almost 6 months

Welcome you PM'd me about the Cabo Surf and I responded. Have you checked out the Long Beach Museum of Art? It's not at all a ballroom and is definitely a cool oceanfront location. There are several private homes in Malibu that you can rent, and San Diego has some great options also. Good luck. Venue was the hardest part for us!

those are beautiful. if your colors are pink and green, I might do more green than pink, but of course it's personal preference.

yes, she is another coordinator in Cabo. Sorry, she never let me in on who I used for flowers, but whoever it was did a great job. The flowers were huge and gorgeous, and they were the least expensive of all of the places that I contacted.

Hey I did have a feather in my hair and carried callas. I am not sure who my florist was, unfortunately but they were contracted through Rosy @ Lovely weddings.

5:30 should be ok for you Ncainey. My wedding was at 5. Any photographer will tell you that direct sunlight is way too harsh and creates bad shadows in photos. If you are concerned about the light, I would move up your ceremony time some. The best light, as I understand it is the 15 or so minutes before sunset aka "golden time" The best thing for you to do is to ask your photographer, or any of the several photographers on the forum. We did photos before the ceremony, but in a shaded area. The ceremony was at 5, and we did photos afterward again until about 6:15 in areas that would normally be exposed to full sunlight. By about 6:45 the sun had totally set.

soccer golf running reading cooking wine I have a good group of girlfriends/bffs and we do pretty regular activities. Last year we all did a bowling league, or we will take turn cooking dinner, etc. It's fun an keeps me active and always doing something new.

just have fun, relax, and drink a lot of the Cabo Surf's stong margs. enjoy!

the tie looks so sharp there dragonfly (is it Kelly?) it totally finishes his look. I think that the light suit and shit make the look casual enough, while the tie really finishes the look. I am a bit of a traditionalist, but I really felt that as I was wearing a full lenght gown (even though it wasn't super formal) I wanted his look to compliment mine. I got one of the most flattering compliments post-wedding - something to the effect of that it was one of the nicest beach weddings this gal had seen because it combined old Hollywood glam with beach wedding.

unfortunately, I don't think so I am sure your sister can pull something similar off for you. It took us about an hour in the fabric store to find the right color combo. I am still so tickled that it turned out so cute. There is a fabulous photo of our FG sitting down during our ceremony with the tufts of tulle surrounding her. So cute. [/hijack]

thanks. my mom made the FG dress. I think the pattern was butterick. We used 3 different colors of tulle over satin to achieve the multi-colored effect. I LOVED her dress, I think more than my own!

We had our welcome dinner and Sunset cruise that were group activities that we paid for. my H set up a golf day for all of the guys who wanted to go (I think there were 16 or 20 of them?) for Friday morning. Otherwise, we let our guests do their own thing.

My husband wore a tie. I thought that it really finished his look and it popped in photos. It's certainly personal preference, but we never considered him not wearing a tie. I would imagine in December the heat will be less of an issue than other months. I was married in March (albeit, in Cabo) and it was pretty mild - even cool once it got dark. you can see the color 'pop' in this photo

I would choose planning a wedding every.single.time. OMG. this is the worst thing ever. Who woulda thunk choosing tile - TILE - would be so ridiculously hard. :/ I need another vacation!

Hi Lisa - I responded to your PM. HTH. We ordered direct from a winery so the wine was already packed to ship. If you plan to buy from a retailer, I would try to contact a winery and see if they can sell you the packing material that they use. We were members of a bunch of winery wine clubs at the time. They usually ship in special styrofoam or cardboard type packaging that keeps the bottles safe.

We brought 3 cases down by plane with no problems or taxes. I know that they questioned some of our group, but when they explained that the wine was for a wedding, the customs officials let them through.

We stayed separately the night before and didn't see each other until we did the big "reveal" prior to the ceremony/caputured by our photog. it was great for us, but the most important thing is that you and your FH are comfortable with the situation. It was kind of nice to wake up and have some time to myself the morning of. I got up and wrote my vows, took a long shower, and relaxed. When I got antsy, I headed down to my parents' suite where everyone was getting ready. I hung out there and people filtered in and out until around 2 when the photographers arrived to start photographing us. We did our reveal around 2:30 or 3 and the ceremony was at 5.

We had them - a HUGE hit with our guests. I think we paid $950 for 2.5 min through Lovely weddings. Quote: Originally Posted by Doc2B&LosCabosBride2B Thanks for all the info. ladies...I'll let you know how it goes and what I find out. I'm headed to Los Cabos in Sept. for a site visit so I'm hoping to get this finalized by then (pending pricing of course!) LaKesha