When do you pick your wedding party??
Posted 13 April 2010 - 09:03 PM
Originally, I was thinking, wait till I see who can come to the wedding and then we can pick our wedding party out of those people as the wedding gets closer. I didn't want to ask people before and then make them feel pressured into spending $1000+ to fly halfway across the world and watch me get married.
However, I was just talking to one of my close friends and now she has me thinking otherwise. She brought up the fact that if we ask ppl to stand up in our wedding after invitations go out and people start responding that they might feel like they were a 2nd choice and someone else pulled out.
So, do you ask the wedding party ahead of time and hope they can come, or do you wait till they respond and then if they say yes you can ask them?
Posted 13 April 2010 - 09:15 PM
Posted 13 April 2010 - 09:28 PM
Posted 13 April 2010 - 09:35 PM
@LA923 I think having two MOH's is fine I've been to weddings that had two and that was fine. If one is married you could always have a matron and a maid but if not to maids are fine.
Good luck to both on your decesions.
Posted 13 April 2010 - 09:43 PM
Posted 13 April 2010 - 09:48 PM
I don't think you should wait for people to RSVP. That's just me though. I feel like it takes away from the excitement and special moment of asking someone to be in your wedding party. I wish you the best of luck in deciding. Let us know how you make out.
Posted 14 April 2010 - 01:08 PM
So I just asked them in person if they would do me the honor of being my BM. Both of them teared up and right away said yes. I was worried about making them feel pressured but honestly, I know that they are super happy to do this for me. So just go ahead and ask. If you sense any hesitation or they say that they don't know, then you might have to think of a backup plan. But I would ask sooner rather than later to allow for BM dresses/alterations and perhaps saving some cash.
Posted 14 April 2010 - 02:29 PM
Posted 14 April 2010 - 07:43 PM
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