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Invitation after guest replies no to STD?

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#1 nylalany

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    Posted 21 December 2007 - 02:17 PM

    I sent out a STD email this week b/c my wedding is in the beginning of May and I'm running out of time. I'm hoping to send invitations at the end of January (how long do they take to order?), but I've already gotten some emails from guests saying that they are sorry they won't be able to make it due to various reasons (other plans, travel conflicts, etc.). Do I still send a proper invitation to these people as it seems like the nice thing to do, or will they see it as me trying to obligate them into send a gift or something?

    #2 Alyssa

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      Posted 21 December 2007 - 02:19 PM

      i say NO - only send them to people who are coming and who you have not heard yes or no from yet

      #3 jajajaja

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        Posted 21 December 2007 - 02:26 PM

        I think it depends on the person. If my grandma said no, I would still send her an invitation. If you invited people that are acquintances or coworkers, then I personally wouldn't spend the money to send them an invite. That might not be the correct etiquette but I'm cheap. lol :)

        But if I invite 30 people and only 10 said no and the minimum order of invites is 25 I would order all 30 to send out of politeness. But if it's going to cost you a lot more, then I wouldn't do it.

        As for how long it takes to order invites, some places require 4 weeks for ordering. I'd look at their website for some kind of disclaimer. Most have it there. If you are unsure of it getting here in time, then I would call and talk to the company to ensure they can do it short notice.
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        #4 Lorilou

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          Posted 21 December 2007 - 02:32 PM

          i am not sending invitations to those who said no to the STD RSVP. however, we are having an AHR when we return and I'm sending those who live nearby and would like to come to the AHR a seperate invitation if they indicated no to the destination wedding RSVP.

          #5 Sarah


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            Posted 21 December 2007 - 02:41 PM

            It depends on who (like Rachel said). If you have the invitations anyway and they aren't expensive and they're an important person, I'd probably still send them :)

            #6 TATrisha


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            Posted 21 December 2007 - 02:51 PM

            I am sending them, but instead of an RSVP I am writing a personalized note which expresses my sadness that they won't be able to make it, but that I completely understand and we will be thinking of them on our day.


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            #7 ACDCDCAC

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            Posted 21 December 2007 - 03:03 PM

            I would say YES send them, because what if their plans change between now and the RSVP date and they can actually make it? That way they know they are wanted. I do really like Tlseege's idea of the personal note, maybe saying that just in case their plans change you would love to have them or something.

            #8 nylalany

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              Posted 21 December 2007 - 04:53 PM

              I LOVE the idea of the personal note in the invitation! Thank you!

              #9 Maura


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              Posted 21 December 2007 - 05:34 PM

              i love the idea of the personal note too, and just like abbie said, you can add in there something like if their plans change, youd still love to have them, if not, then youll be thinking of them!

              #10 Can'tHardlyWait

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                Posted 21 December 2007 - 05:52 PM

                I am not sure what the "proper" thing to do is, but I am sending the invites to everyone... I hope it doesn't come off like I just want a gift!

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