A little thing I like to call "Operation Wedding Dress" (aka, my dress is too small... but it won't be soon!)

[DinaQtobe]

Hi Ladies,

 

My name is Dina, I am from Ontario, Canada.  About a year and a half ago I lost quite a bit of weight through watching what I eat.  My mom had just been diagnosed with type 2 diabetes and was adamant on not going on any kind of medication to control it.  Through working with a dietician she was able to get her diabetes under control and dropped about 30lbs in 4 months.  This was a huge wake up call for me as my mom was never one to eat a lot of candy or treats, and I didn't want to follow the same path into diabetes.  She inspired me to  change the way I ate.  After that I only ate things that "came from the ground", with the exception of chicken, tofu, yogurt, cottage cheese, cheese, salad dressing, and the occasional squares of dark chocolate.  Plenty of veggies and fruit.  I cut out all of those "refined" carbs; I only ate oats, potatoes, and quinoa.  I started walking a little bit here and there too and felt amazing about myself.  I followed that for almost 8 months and went down about 4 pant sizes.  It felt great to have everyone comment on how great I looked!

 

Now that my wedding is only 6 months away I want to tone up and lose some of the weight that I have gained back since I stopped being so strict with what I have been eating.  I think my biggest challenge is to start exercising regularly.  Last week I exercised 3 times.  So far this week once (but it's only monday!).  I am hoping you ladies can help me with my motivation and continue to inspire me to look great for the wedding!  I also hope that I can inspire some people too!

[moodyc82]

Originally Posted by DinaQtobe 

 

Hi Ladies,

 

My name is Dina, I am from Ontario, Canada.  About a year and a half ago I lost quite a bit of weight through watching what I eat.  My mom had just been diagnosed with type 2 diabetes and was adamant on not going on any kind of medication to control it.  Through working with a dietician she was able to get her diabetes under control and dropped about 30lbs in 4 months.  This was a huge wake up call for me as my mom was never one to eat a lot of candy or treats, and I didn't want to follow the same path into diabetes.  She inspired me to  change the way I ate.  After that I only ate things that "came from the ground", with the exception of chicken, tofu, yogurt, cottage cheese, cheese, salad dressing, and the occasional squares of dark chocolate.  Plenty of veggies and fruit.  I cut out all of those "refined" carbs; I only ate oats, potatoes, and quinoa.  I started walking a little bit here and there too and felt amazing about myself.  I followed that for almost 8 months and went down about 4 pant sizes.  It felt great to have everyone comment on how great I looked!

 

Now that my wedding is only 6 months away I want to tone up and lose some of the weight that I have gained back since I stopped being so strict with what I have been eating.  I think my biggest challenge is to start exercising regularly.  Last week I exercised 3 times.  So far this week once (but it's only monday!).  I am hoping you ladies can help me with my motivation and continue to inspire me to look great for the wedding!  I also hope that I can inspire some people too!

 

You can do it girl!!! xoxo

[hezmshaw]

Thanks for all the new friends on my fitness pal ladies when I said I would start logging now, I meant to,or row, lol. I visited my friend, she fed me a ton of butter chicken #oops

[moodyc82]

Originally Posted by hezmshaw 

 

Thanks for all the new friends on my fitness pal ladies when I said I would start logging now, I meant to,or row, lol. I visited my friend, she fed me a ton of butter chicken #oops

I had pizza last night....still logged it  LOL, fiance's bday and that's what he wanted for dinner so who am I to deny him pizza on his bday?!

[Jenny2014]

Originally Posted by moodyc82 

I had pizza last night....still logged it  LOL, fiance's bday and that's what he wanted for dinner so who am I to deny him pizza on his bday?!

I had pizza too! Wasn't the intention but the in-laws came over to discuss wedding, and we were fighting up until they arrive, so we didn't eat before. UGH.

 

Seriously, if my conversation with my parents doesn't go well tonight, I am going to lose it. I don't even want to go to my own wedding anymore, so unless these changes are immediately accepted, I am calling it off, and Amir and I are eloping without ANYONE there.

[moodyc82]

Originally Posted by Jenny2014 

 

I had pizza too! Wasn't the intention but the in-laws came over to discuss wedding, and we were fighting up until they arrive, so we didn't eat before. UGH.

 

Seriously, if my conversation with my parents doesn't go well tonight, I am going to lose it. I don't even want to go to my own wedding anymore, so unless these changes are immediately accepted, I am calling it off, and Amir and I are eloping without ANYONE there.

That's me and his family....his mother is driving me absolutely insane and I'm giving it all I have to not snap at her. She can't seem to understand why we're not inviting a bunch of people and she also can't seem to understand that we do not have a ton of money laying around and we're limiting ppl b/c of cost and b/c of the location we want it. The reception terrace we picked is only confy with 40ppl and still be able to dance. Finally my FI said to her if she thinks she's bringing a date (she's single) that she will be paying us $66 for him. (that's what it costs for anyone over 20 ppl). He said the same thing to his brother who is also single. On top of that his brother thinks he's going to tell me what he's going to wear and that just is not going to happen. He wants to wear a three piece suite and I specifically said no that is not what the wedding party is wearing. So if he continues she's about to be out of the damn wedding. What ever happened to it's the BRIDE's choice?

[Jenny2014]

Originally Posted by moodyc82 

 

That's me and his family....his mother is driving me absolutely insane and I'm giving it all I have to not snap at her. She can't seem to understand why we're not inviting a bunch of people and she also can't seem to understand that we do not have a ton of money laying around and we're limiting ppl b/c of cost and b/c of the location we want it. The reception terrace we picked is only confy with 40ppl and still be able to dance. Finally my FI said to her if she thinks she's bringing a date (she's single) that she will be paying us $66 for him. (that's what it costs for anyone over 20 ppl). He said the same thing to his brother who is also single. On top of that his brother thinks he's going to tell me what he's going to wear and that just is not going to happen. He wants to wear a three piece suite and I specifically said no that is not what the wedding party is wearing. So if he continues she's about to be out of the damn wedding. What ever happened to it's the BRIDE's choice?

 

SERIOUSLY, right??

 

I am so dreading this conversation with my parents, because I know it is just going to upset us all... and my mom is going to be so pissy because it's almost mother's day and I am just trying to ruin it for her, blah, blah, blah. And what does it matter if some of those people come, how can I possibly NOT invite my godmother and godfather.... they will pay for all these additional people, so what does it matter......

 

It matters EVERYTHING. We aren't super close with them, and if we let them invite a few people, then we have to do the same for Amir's parents, and then we are right back to where we are standing. So no one from their list is invited, no one from Amir's parent's list is invited... they all can come to our stupid huge reception. End of discussion. Oh, they all have to fly in from out West? Too bad, so does Amir's dad's siblings... who live in PAKISTAN.

 

Like frig.... So sad I know the exact fight I am walking into.... but I am doing it on my own, without Amir, because he doesn't need to see my parents at their absolute worst, behaviour wise. He already knows/ see's so much from them and tolerates it... I just don't need my mom being herself and possibly offending him/ having the two of them fighting on top of it. I will take the brunt of my parent's wrath.

[moodyc82]

Originally Posted by Jenny2014 

 

 

SERIOUSLY, right??

 

I am so dreading this conversation with my parents, because I know it is just going to upset us all... and my mom is going to be so pissy because it's almost mother's day and I am just trying to ruin it for her, blah, blah, blah. And what does it matter if some of those people come, how can I possibly NOT invite my godmother and godfather.... they will pay for all these additional people, so what does it matter......

 

It matters EVERYTHING. We aren't super close with them, and if we let them invite a few people, then we have to do the same for Amir's parents, and then we are right back to where we are standing. So no one from their list is invited, no one from Amir's parent's list is invited... they all can come to our stupid huge reception. End of discussion. Oh, they all have to fly in from out West? Too bad, so does Amir's dad's siblings... who live in PAKISTAN.

 

Like frig.... So sad I know the exact fight I am walking into.... but I am doing it on my own, without Amir, because he doesn't need to see my parents at their absolute worst, behaviour wise. He already knows/ see's so much from them and tolerates it... I just don't need my mom being herself and possibly offending him/ having the two of them fighting on top of it. I will take the brunt of my parent's wrath.

OH I know the feeling girl, hang in there. His mother expects us to have a huge stupid reception when we come home and he straight out told her no, if she wants it than she pays for it. And that the only people invited to the wedding are our CLOSE friends and family. Like sunday she was over for the FI bday dinner and she's like well what friends are you inviting and I'm like the people in the wedding party (6 ppl all together) and that's that. She's like well what about blah blah blah and so and so, and I'm like we don't hang out with them. I'm seriously about to snap on her. Yet my mother and my grandmother haven't asked to invite anyone and are completely ok with EVERYTHING. Like seriously?! So than she's like well when do we have to book by? And I was like we put 10 rooms on hold and when they're gone they're gone and if the resort is sold out than there's nothing I can do so I would suggest you put the $50 deposit down sooner rather than later. Than she had a comment on dresses, about how I shouldn't get a heavy one. I was like I'm going to get whatever I look the best in. Like who care's if I'm hot if I look rockin in it! Smh.....I think when we get back from a trip we're going on in June that the shit is going to hit the fan with all this. Bridezilla here I come....lol

[Jenny2014]

Originally Posted by moodyc82 

 

OH I know the feeling girl, hang in there. His mother expects us to have a huge stupid reception when we come home and he straight out told her no, if she wants it than she pays for it. And that the only people invited to the wedding are our CLOSE friends and family. Like sunday she was over for the FI bday dinner and she's like well what friends are you inviting and I'm like the people in the wedding party (6 ppl all together) and that's that. She's like well what about blah blah blah and so and so, and I'm like we don't hang out with them. I'm seriously about to snap on her. Yet my mother and my grandmother haven't asked to invite anyone and are completely ok with EVERYTHING. Like seriously?! So than she's like well when do we have to book by? And I was like we put 10 rooms on hold and when they're gone they're gone and if the resort is sold out than there's nothing I can do so I would suggest you put the $50 deposit down sooner rather than later. Than she had a comment on dresses, about how I shouldn't get a heavy one. I was like I'm going to get whatever I look the best in. Like who care's if I'm hot if I look rockin in it! Smh.....I think when we get back from a trip we're going on in June that the shit is going to hit the fan with all this. Bridezilla here I come....lol

Oh, we aren't paying for the reception ourselves. We'll split it three ways, and if someone doesn't want to contribute... then their list doesn't get invited.

 

I think there always has to be one....one person who just is more than unreasonable at times. It's in the best interest, and because she/ he is so excited for you.... but it's always too much.

 

Sorry your FMIL is giving you some challenges. But together, through this forum and with our FI's, we will get through it all!

 

I am seriously hoping I don't have Bridezilla moments..... though I guess the past few weeks have been such. But I don't think they are.... they are just craziness being told to me that I have to do.... and I don't want to do that!

 

Where you going in June? Jealous of your vacay!

[moodyc82]

Originally Posted by Jenny2014 

 

Oh, we aren't paying for the reception ourselves. We'll split it three ways, and if someone doesn't want to contribute... then their list doesn't get invited.

 

I think there always has to be one....one person who just is more than unreasonable at times. It's in the best interest, and because she/ he is so excited for you.... but it's always too much.

 

Sorry your FMIL is giving you some challenges. But together, through this forum and with our FI's, we will get through it all!

 

I am seriously hoping I don't have Bridezilla moments..... though I guess the past few weeks have been such. But I don't think they are.... they are just craziness being told to me that I have to do.... and I don't want to do that!

 

Where you going in June? Jealous of your vacay!

She's just crazy, typical italian mother.....and she thinks she's staying as long as us LOL....not happening, my TA already knows and plans on telling her there's no rooms available. Sorry, not spending my honeymoon with you lady!

 

We're going on a cruise to Alaska!! We booked it last year and he actually was going to propose on the cruise but didn't want to wait  So it will be a nice break before all the craziness begins. We had some other issues since our engagement involving his alcholic father and elderly grandmother so we haven't even been able to enjoy our engagement  So I'm counting down the days until it's just me and him for 10 full days!!! Can't wait