Uninvited Guest !!!!!venting!!!

[jolene028]

You are pretty nice!!! I had the couple people I didnt know invite more people... Luckily the flight is sold out so the line has been drawn I guess now it is what it is

[Cherina]

This whole experience is taking the nice out of me. I'm at the point of blunt honestly, I don't have the time or energy for stepping lightly, beating around the bush it being PC. That was 6 months ago.... I hope things work out for you but then again maybe if they don't go your time abroad will be more peaceful.

[Cherina]

This whole experience is taking the nice out of me. I'm at the point of blunt honestly, I don't have the time or energy for stepping lightly, beating around the bush it being PC. That was 6 months ago.... I hope things work out for you but then again maybe if they don't go your time abroad will be more peaceful.

[JSLM]

Glad to know other people out there are going through the same thing. You would think it would be common sense to people, like why would someone go to a wedding if they didn't know the people... but i guess not.

[Melissa14]

Some people just don't have common sense...sadly!

[Jessica Correa]

I have similar problems. Everyone I am inviting is people that my fiance knows and has shared many moments with. They are also with someone so their plus one are actually friends. His friends, in the other hand, are all single and it kills me to think that a good amount of people would just be plus ones that I probably will never see again. But how do I tell people they have to come to the wedding alone? I feel a little bit bad for that. He is also inviting family members that I have never met or even heard of! It's family but I was not counting on having so many strangers to me at the wedding. I am not sure if I should even address the problem. I feel that ever since the wedding planning started, we have argued more frequently and I do not want to argue, but I don't think I should just stay quiet and go along with everything I disagree with.

[Melissa14]

Hi Jessica Correa Welcome!I'm going to give you the best advice I could think of. I 150% understand how touchy this subject can be. My fiance would get so upset when I tried to limit people he wanted to invite but then I reminded him that we were having a destination wedding for a reason! To get away from the traditional 200 person wedding where 100 of those people you don't even know personally. You need to sit down and address the situation NOW. You have plenty of time before your wedding. Have you sent out save the dates yet? It is crucial that you guest list is finalized before you send those babies out! Make sue EVERYONE knows that it the list is FINAL. It's tough and it can cause arguments but it's only fair that everyone is on the same page. I don't know what your budget is but I had to keep reminding my fiance that our short guest list was as budget friendly as it was going to get and we could not afford to keep inviting people. Nip this in the bud now before you are sitting there 6 months from your wedding trying to adjust your budget to include 15 new guests LIKE ME

 

Best of luck to you!!!
 

[TheWolferts]

Originally Posted by Jessica Correa 

 

I have similar problems. Everyone I am inviting is people that my fiance knows and has shared many moments with. They are also with someone so their plus one are actually friends. His friends, in the other hand, are all single and it kills me to think that a good amount of people would just be plus ones that I probably will never see again. But how do I tell people they have to come to the wedding alone? I feel a little bit bad for that. He is also inviting family members that I have never met or even heard of! It's family but I was not counting on having so many strangers to me at the wedding. I am not sure if I should even address the problem. I feel that ever since the wedding planning started, we have argued more frequently and I do not want to argue, but I don't think I should just stay quiet and go along with everything I disagree with.

 

I felt the same way for our wedding, so if guests were ignoring their invitations that specifically told them if they got to bring a date, we were just going to tell them that we understand that this is a vacation for them and are certainly welcome to bring a guest; however, due to space limitations at our wedding events, we will be unable to accomodate everyone's guests.

 

When it actually came down to it, if people weren't in a serious relationship, they didnt manage to convince a random friend or casual date to travel abroad with them, so we didnt actually have to tell anyone this.

[Jessica Correa]

Originally Posted by Melissa14 

 

Hi Jessica Correa Welcome!I'm going to give you the best advice I could think of. I 150% understand how touchy this subject can be. My fiance would get so upset when I tried to limit people he wanted to invite but then I reminded him that we were having a destination wedding for a reason! To get away from the traditional 200 person wedding where 100 of those people you don't even know personally. You need to sit down and address the situation NOW. You have plenty of time before your wedding. Have you sent out save the dates yet? It is crucial that you guest list is finalized before you send those babies out! Make sue EVERYONE knows that it the list is FINAL. It's tough and it can cause arguments but it's only fair that everyone is on the same page. I don't know what your budget is but I had to keep reminding my fiance that our short guest list was as budget friendly as it was going to get and we could not afford to keep inviting people. Nip this in the bud now before you are sitting there 6 months from your wedding trying to adjust your budget to include 15 new guests LIKE ME

 

Best of luck to you!!!

 

thanks. I guess that is what I am going to have to sit down and do this weekend. I did want a DW because it would be a smaller group and then he added so many people that I was not accounting for and I am starting to think I should have just eloped. This is ridiculous. I wish you the best of luck trying to solve your problem and thanks for the words of wisdom.

[Jessica Correa]

Originally Posted by TheWolferts 

 

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jessica Correa 

 

I have similar problems. Everyone I am inviting is people that my fiance knows and has shared many moments with. They are also with someone so their plus one are actually friends. His friends, in the other hand, are all single and it kills me to think that a good amount of people would just be plus ones that I probably will never see again. But how do I tell people they have to come to the wedding alone? I feel a little bit bad for that. He is also inviting family members that I have never met or even heard of! It's family but I was not counting on having so many strangers to me at the wedding. I am not sure if I should even address the problem. I feel that ever since the wedding planning started, we have argued more frequently and I do not want to argue, but I don't think I should just stay quiet and go along with everything I disagree with.

 

I felt the same way for our wedding, so if guests were ignoring their invitations that specifically told them if they got to bring a date, we were just going to tell them that we understand that this is a vacation for them and are certainly welcome to bring a guest; however, due to space limitations at our wedding events, we will be unable to accomodate everyone's guests.

 

When it actually came down to it, if people weren't in a serious relationship, they didnt manage to convince a random friend or casual date to travel abroad with them, so we didnt actually have to tell anyone this.

That is great. lucky you did not have to actually do it. My fiance's friends (for the most part) think that they are still 18 and get a different girl like every weekend and to think that in my wedding pictures there will be a random one weekender girlfriend kills me! Not only that but I would really like to stay within budget. I am so stressed out and overwhelmed about the budget.