Any other 2014 brides here getting an early start?

[pzl101]

Originally Posted by happywife 

 

Hey ladies, I finally made up my mind on the venue Blue Venado waiting to hear if it will be available for our date and then we will take it from there... I was going back and forth on this because  I could not find enough pics on it but I finally found the perfect thread on it and I am convinced!!!! Now on to finding a not too big All inclusive resort for our guests... something where we will not get lost, LOL and its family friendly ( and of course not too expensive) any suggestions???

congrats on deciding a place! that is seriously the hardest part i think!

 

Originally Posted by cocoluv 

 

Newbie signing in from Harlem, NYC... Wedding date is July 10, 2014 (postponed from August 26, 2012).. Very excited to be in this planning phase. Loving ALL of the ideas that you ladies have been sharing. So grateful for the wealth of info and looking forward to this journey. Congratulations to all of you!!!

welcome and congrats!

Originally Posted by niknic456 

 

I don't post much in this thread but u girls help get me thru my work day and wedding stress with your hilarious post.

 

I'm Nikki from Jersey and I'm getting married April 26,2014 @ Now Sapphire, approx 40 guests...90% completed with planning....I want to get the planning out the way and focus on things like getting in a 2 piece bikini...lol

welcome! 90% planning done?? wow, that's awesome!

[pzl101]

HELP ladies!! I'm second guessing myself and my decision now and stressing out ....

 

We each have a very big family and since we're paying for the wedding ourselves, we decided to have a small wedding - inviting only immediate family and our best friends.

 

I told my mom last night and she was very disappointed - not angry but more sad. She's the eldest of all my aunts and uncles and I'm her first child getting married so she expected/wants me to have a big party where I invite everyone. On my side alone, it will be 60 people ... add in my FI's family, it will be over 120! We don't want to offend any relative by picking and choosing certain ones that we are closer to so we decided we won't invite anyone.

 

I explained to my mom that we couldn't afford to have a big wedding and she even offered to give me money (mind you, she's a seamstress working in a factory in NYC that is practically a sweatshop so she makes NO money)  So now I'm feeling guilty that my mom really wants this that she is willing to give me the little money she does have...

 

I know not everyone will go but I think most will surprise us and go. I'm not sure what to do... should we just chance it and invite everyone and put it upon them to see if they will make it or not?  Or should we just stick to our original plans and hope everyone understands ...

 

We will invite everyone out to dinner when we get back from the wedding - it won't be the same as a big AHR or a typical Chinese wedding banquet so I'm not sure if that will satisfy my family ( who are pretty traditional)

 

 I only see my relatives once a year at Christmas so we're not very close ... it's more about etiquette and tradition ...

[niknic456]

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HELP ladies!! I'm second guessing myself and my decision now and stressing out .... We each have a very big family and since we're paying for the wedding ourselves, we decided to have a small wedding - inviting only immediate family and our best friends. I told my mom last night and she was very disappointed - not angry but more sad. She's the eldest of all my aunts and uncles and I'm her first child getting married so she expected/wants me to have a big party where I invite everyone. On my side alone, it will be 60 people ... add in my FI's family, it will be over 120! We don't want to offend any relative by picking and choosing certain ones that we are closer to so we decided we won't invite anyone. I explained to my mom that we couldn't afford to have a big wedding and she even offered to give me money (mind you, she's a seamstress working in a factory in NYC that is practically a sweatshop so she makes NO money)  So now I'm feeling guilty that my mom really wants this that she is willing to give me the little money she does have... I know not everyone will go but I think most will surprise us and go. I'm not sure what to do... should we just chance it and invite everyone and put it upon them to see if they will make it or not?  Or should we just stick to our original plans and hope everyone understands ... We will invite everyone out to dinner when we get back from the wedding - it won't be the same as a big AHR or a typical Chinese wedding banquet so I'm not sure if that will satisfy my family ( who are pretty traditional)  I only see my relatives once a year at Christmas so we're not very close ... it's more about etiquette and tradition ...

I totally understand and was in the same boat...but at the end if the day it was my wedding and my decision to make and my mom got over it and realized that seeing me happy was far more important that seeing me stressed out and broke. I even cancelled my stateside reception because we get so caught up in what tradition says or what our moms want that we loose focus on the main goal and that is marrying the love of our lives and living as happily ever after (as possible). Having a bug family is a blessing, but the family is not there when the bill is due...just my personal thought/experience.

[brownsugarbride]

Originally Posted by pzl101 

 

HELP ladies!! I'm second guessing myself and my decision now and stressing out ....

 

We each have a very big family and since we're paying for the wedding ourselves, we decided to have a small wedding - inviting only immediate family and our best friends.

 

I told my mom last night and she was very disappointed - not angry but more sad. She's the eldest of all my aunts and uncles and I'm her first child getting married so she expected/wants me to have a big party where I invite everyone. On my side alone, it will be 60 people ... add in my FI's family, it will be over 120! We don't want to offend any relative by picking and choosing certain ones that we are closer to so we decided we won't invite anyone.

 

I explained to my mom that we couldn't afford to have a big wedding and she even offered to give me money (mind you, she's a seamstress working in a factory in NYC that is practically a sweatshop so she makes NO money)  So now I'm feeling guilty that my mom really wants this that she is willing to give me the little money she does have...

 

I know not everyone will go but I think most will surprise us and go. I'm not sure what to do... should we just chance it and invite everyone and put it upon them to see if they will make it or not?  Or should we just stick to our original plans and hope everyone understands ...

 

We will invite everyone out to dinner when we get back from the wedding - it won't be the same as a big AHR or a typical Chinese wedding banquet so I'm not sure if that will satisfy my family ( who are pretty traditional)

 

 I only see my relatives once a year at Christmas so we're not very close ... it's more about etiquette and tradition ...

 

I know it's hard, but you really have to do what is right for you.  Perhaps you could meet your mom a little in the middle---maybe invite a few more of the relatives that you are close to but not have 120 people come?  At the end of the day, somebody is going to get offended, no matter how many you invite! 

[moodyc82]

Originally Posted by brownsugarbride 

 

 

Blue Venado is in Playa del Carmen.

YAY

Originally Posted by niknic456 

 

I don't post much in this thread but u girls help get me thru my work day and wedding stress with your hilarious post.

 

I'm Nikki from Jersey and I'm getting married April 26,2014 @ Now Sapphire, approx 40 guests...90% completed with planning....I want to get the planning out the way and focus on things like getting in a 2 piece bikini...lol

Welcome to the thread, where in NJ? I'm in Parsippany

Originally Posted by happywife 

 

WOW you're doing great!! I just got confirmation on my venue that it's available for my date, let the planning begin!!!!

 

Speaking of bikini I am starting a 30 day challenge today, even though I have a year I figured I get the hang of it now

Yay for getting the confirmation

Originally Posted by pzl101 

 

wow, great job! getting things done! and love the ring!

 

Thank you! It's vera wang

Originally Posted by pzl101 

 

HELP ladies!! I'm second guessing myself and my decision now and stressing out ....

 

We each have a very big family and since we're paying for the wedding ourselves, we decided to have a small wedding - inviting only immediate family and our best friends.

 

I told my mom last night and she was very disappointed - not angry but more sad. She's the eldest of all my aunts and uncles and I'm her first child getting married so she expected/wants me to have a big party where I invite everyone. On my side alone, it will be 60 people ... add in my FI's family, it will be over 120! We don't want to offend any relative by picking and choosing certain ones that we are closer to so we decided we won't invite anyone.

 

I explained to my mom that we couldn't afford to have a big wedding and she even offered to give me money (mind you, she's a seamstress working in a factory in NYC that is practically a sweatshop so she makes NO money)  So now I'm feeling guilty that my mom really wants this that she is willing to give me the little money she does have...

 

I know not everyone will go but I think most will surprise us and go. I'm not sure what to do... should we just chance it and invite everyone and put it upon them to see if they will make it or not?  Or should we just stick to our original plans and hope everyone understands ...

 

We will invite everyone out to dinner when we get back from the wedding - it won't be the same as a big AHR or a typical Chinese wedding banquet so I'm not sure if that will satisfy my family ( who are pretty traditional)

 

 I only see my relatives once a year at Christmas so we're not very close ... it's more about etiquette and tradition ...

Do not second guess yourself, my FI mother is trying to guilt us into inviting more ppl and I flat out told her no. This is for immediate family and close friends. We're not going broke b/c she wants ppl to come. In the end it is your wedding day when you marry your best friend and the ppl who mean the most to you will be standing by your side. Throw a little at home reception when you come back and show everyone a video of the ceremony and pictures.

[shugapop1]

Quote:

Originally Posted by moodyc82 

YAY

Welcome to the thread, where in NJ? I'm in Parsippany

Yay for getting the confirmation

Thank you! It's vera wang

Do not second guess yourself, my FI mother is trying to guilt us into inviting more ppl and I flat out told her no. This is for immediate family and close friends. We're not going broke b/c she wants ppl to come. In the end it is your wedding day when you marry your best friend and the ppl who mean the most to you will be standing by your side. Throw a little at home reception when you come back and show everyone a video of the ceremony and pictures.

 

don't second guess yourself at all, my mother is trying to guilt me into not having destination wedding and having it in NC so that more people can attend. i had to explain to her, that was not an option and i could not afford to pay for all those people. my mother is not financially able to help out with my wedding and my father is deceased so, paying for all those people is a definite no no. lol

[moodyc82]

Originally Posted by shugapop1 

 

 

don't second guess yourself at all, my mother is trying to guilt me into not having destination wedding and having it in NC so that more people can attend. i had to explain to her, that was not an option and i could not afford to pay for all those people. my mother is not financially able to help out with my wedding and my father is deceased so, paying for all those people is a definite no no. lol

Same exact boat here.....my father is deceased and my mother is very poor, and his mother just wants the big high end NJ wedding and expects us to go in debt for it...not happening

[hclibby1982]

Originally Posted by pzl101 

 

HELP ladies!! I'm second guessing myself and my decision now and stressing out ....

 

We each have a very big family and since we're paying for the wedding ourselves, we decided to have a small wedding - inviting only immediate family and our best friends.

 

I told my mom last night and she was very disappointed - not angry but more sad. She's the eldest of all my aunts and uncles and I'm her first child getting married so she expected/wants me to have a big party where I invite everyone. On my side alone, it will be 60 people ... add in my FI's family, it will be over 120! We don't want to offend any relative by picking and choosing certain ones that we are closer to so we decided we won't invite anyone.

 

I explained to my mom that we couldn't afford to have a big wedding and she even offered to give me money (mind you, she's a seamstress working in a factory in NYC that is practically a sweatshop so she makes NO money)  So now I'm feeling guilty that my mom really wants this that she is willing to give me the little money she does have...

 

I know not everyone will go but I think most will surprise us and go. I'm not sure what to do... should we just chance it and invite everyone and put it upon them to see if they will make it or not?  Or should we just stick to our original plans and hope everyone understands ...

 

We will invite everyone out to dinner when we get back from the wedding - it won't be the same as a big AHR or a typical Chinese wedding banquet so I'm not sure if that will satisfy my family ( who are pretty traditional)

 

 I only see my relatives once a year at Christmas so we're not very close ... it's more about etiquette and tradition ...

I know it can be hard when you're dealing with tradition especially if you have a very traditional family and you're the oldest but don't 2nd guess yourself.  The wedding is about you and your FI and you need to do what you want.  The more people you have the more the DW will cost because even if you get a package once you go over that you're paying by the person.  You decided on a DW for a reason, reiterate those to your Mom again and hopefully she gets on board.  My FI's family still isn't totally on board but that's their problem, not ours.

[tyrebride2b2013]

Newbie signing in from Harlem, NYC... Wedding date is July 10, 2014 (postponed from August 26, 2012).. Very excited to be in this planning phase. Loving ALL of the ideas that you ladies have been sharing. So grateful for the wealth of info and looking forward to this journey. Congratulations to all of you!!!

Welcome and Congrats. Do you have your location picked?

[tyrebride2b2013]

Hey ladies, I finally made up my mind on the venue Blue Venado waiting to hear if it will be available for our date and then we will take it from there... I was going back and forth on this because  I could not find enough pics on it but I finally found the perfect thread on it and I am convinced!!!! Now on to finding a not too big All inclusive resort for our guests... something where we will not get lost, LOL and its family friendly ( and of course not too expensive) any suggestions???

Great fingers crossed for your date

WOW you're doing great!! I just got confirmation on my venue that it's available for my date, let the planning begin!!!! Speaking of bikini I am starting a 30 day challenge today, even though I have a year I figured I get the hang of it now

Are you doing jillian michael' s?