Is there anyone that you are having a hard time deciding whether to invite or not invite to join in your wedding experience? My FI doesn't want to invite his mom or sister to share in our day. I feel terrible being on FB saying anything and his sister seeing without being sent an invitiation. She lives in NY and I don't know whether they would even come.
FI doesn't want his mom to come because she is a heavy drinker (the kind that doesn't think she is) and he is worried about her embarrassing him or doing something stupid while in a different country. I feel like it is best to go along with what he wants regarding his own family, but I feel terrible. We would have to pay for his mom to attend since she does not work so the financial burden would be a bit much BUT doable if he wanted to bring her.
How do you tell someone they can't attend because of their actions? Is it best to not say anything? To be fair she doesn't really konw that we are already planning this or where we are going. I just feel guilty. He doesn't want his sister to attend because she and his mother do not speak and haven't for 10+ years. He thinks it is rude to not invite his mom, but invite his sister. His mom doesn't know that FI and his sister even speak because she would get upset.
Any suggestions on how to handle this situation if we are asked about it from either of them?
Is my FI crazy for feeling this way?
Thanks for the feedback!