Can I get some opinions on this? I really want to know if I am being reasonable or if I'm totally off my rocker.
We're inviting 75 people to our wedding next year. So that's immediate family, relatives on my mom's side (as we see them on a regular basis), my fiance's relatives (mainly his dad's side as his mom's side are MIA) and some close friends. We were also planning on inviting my grandparents on my dad's side (even thought they drive me batty), though I had no intention of inviting my dad's sisters. My dad has no issue with this, by the way.
My dad's sisters have no been a part of my family's life for a long time, like 15+ years. No phone calls, no birthday cards, no contact at all. My parents really made an effort with them, but after being shrugged off enough just gave up. Somehow my one aunt and I connected on Facebook 4 years ago and have had one conversation on there that amounted to "How's life? How's school? Okay I'm busy, I have to run." However, ever since I got engaged 6 months ago she's made a few comments, either on my facebook profile or in a card to my dad (the first in 15 years!) about how she's really excited for the wedding.
I don't consider her family - blood relative, yes, but family, no. So I don't feel inclined to invite her and her family, or my other aunt's family to my wedding when I'd rather have those spaces filled by people that have been there for me and my fiance. Is this horrible of me? Am I supposed to invite them just because they're family? Can I just explain to them if they ask that we're limiting our wedding to close friends and family?
Any advice would be much appreciated.