Originally Posted by ChocoTaco7568
This was my exact logic, and for months I didn't think it would be a concern until it seemed to be the only complaint from 4 recent brides at my resort which of course made me nervous. But our ceremony is the most important part. If we were getting married in the states, my brother would have officiated. We thought it would have been more special and personal to have him marry us than a stranger. And a part of me still believes this should also apply for the destination wedding. My Fi is actually more adamant about our guests not knowing, especially his parents.
I honestly think most people are excited that we're forcing them to take a vacation and our marriage is secondary with exception to our parents and best man and woman. And I think the only ones people who will question our choice to have a symbolic ceremony are my Fi's parents. His mom will feel emotionally slighted and his dad is just cheap and wouldn't understand why we're doing it. But I don't believe that anyone's decision to come would change based on whether or not our ceremony is legal. Most of our friends and family are pragmatic enough to understand if they were to find out or inquire (at lease the guests that weâ€™re inviting).
When itâ€™s all said and done, this will be the day when my Fi and I publically profess our love and commitment. And if people think any less of it because itâ€™s not legal, than maybe they shouldnâ€™t come. I might have to talk with the Fi again. I think I just convinced myself that I want my brother to marry us.
Your brother should definitely do it!!! That would be so sweet and meaningful. You go girl, fight the power!!!
Honestly, it is too much of a worry to do the legal bits in Mexico. I've heard there is a lot more involved. You are doing the "stress free" option, which is how weddings should be