I know there have been quite a few posts like these over the years and I know my position is not unique, but I really need some support right now. I am having the hardest time getting people to like/understand my destination wedding dream. I want to do something really small and simple at a tropical locale, perhaps 20-25 people tops. I have a big family, so 10 of those people are just immediate family members...and it's the immediate family members who are the toughest to deal with.
My dad and stepmom say they will support us but have been less than enthusiastic about it and I sent them a long e-mail about how this is really my dream and how unsupported I feel, and they just replied that they are discussing it and will get back to me. My fiance's parents are moving to Saudi Arabia (from our hometown) and do not want us to do a tropical DW, but would prefer something in Europe or back home so it would be easier for them to get to. My mom and stepdad are fine with it and say they'll be there no matter what, but I know they can't really afford it. We're all solidly middle class, and while this DW won't cost more than an annual vacation, most of my family has stopped taking annual vacations since the recession.
So, at what point do you just give up your dream and do something else? I would rather elope than have a wedding at home. I just imagine a hometown wedding being mega-boring and neither my fiance or I are into the idea. However, I have heard from several family members (my mom and my sister) that they would have a really difficult time not being there for me...and I do really want them to be there...
Am I just being selfish? Should I pick the most affordable option and give up my dream of a DW? I am so tired of people giving me ideas and telling me what they think I should do (which is always the most convenient option for them). I have a vision and I feel like anything less would be sad...of course, I also have overwhelming guilt that I am being a huge brat about this.
HELP! What should I do?
P.S. Locations on the short list are Puerto Vallarta, St John, St Lucia and Jamaica. I am looking for something with beaches and mountains so that people can do lots of activities, plus I want a vista at my ceremony...not just the white sandy beach thing, but something a little more scenic.