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#861 NamasteLotus

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    Posted 05 October 2011 - 10:43 AM


    AM, sorry honey... totally a stressor, ...it would be nice if the family could help out... I don't know what I'd do if that happened to us.  We ended up helping a few of our close family/friends with some costs to help them get there, but we did it earlier on and now we're still stressed about stuff you didn't think about $$ .... if you got money from any showers or gifts, would you be willing to help them with their costs?... you have to ask yourself how bad do you want them there to take on that extra financial burden though.  Hopefully the family will help out with the costs... but for them they might be more concerned with saving that money to survive off rather than spend what they've been able to save and spend it to get there...it's a hard position to be in since they still have no guarantee at having a job when they come back?  If he found another job, would he be willing to rejoin?Can they wait any longer or do they need to cancel now to not lose anymore money?

     

     

    Originally Posted by amjohnson 

    Hi Ladies,

     I need to share or vent. So my fiance's best man, his stepbrother called him from the UK today to tell him that he can't come to our wedding!!! Understandably he lost his job a month or so again but it is really upsetting for us as we are not having a lot of people and his wife is one of my bridesmaids!! We are hoping his family may offer to help out...trying to keep positive thoughts.



     



    #862 beachbum21

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      Posted 05 October 2011 - 05:17 PM


      This is the first i've heard of it so I'll definitely look into it!! Thanks for the info!

      Originally Posted by Jessica4LUXE 

      Hi Ladies!

       

      Just wondering if any Toronto brides are planning on attending The Civilized Bride bridal show on Friday, October 21st?



       



      #863 amjohnson

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        Posted 05 October 2011 - 09:13 PM


        Yes, well what is upsetting is that we have bought their outfits and sent them to them...good thing I haven't ordered my flowers and a few other things. We were their only wedding party last year when they came to Canada to get married and we have been talking and planning over the past year for this...so in a way..a bit of a surprise.

        Originally Posted by Krysta lee ann 

        I feel your pain. My FI had a groomsman say very quickly that yes he would stand up but now has told us he cant go because of finances. I understand that some ppl arent able to afford to go that is just a reality of a destination wedding. BUT what angers me is that they so quickly say YES to stand up and dont realise that they cause my FI to be upset because now they recount.

         



         



        #864 amjohnson

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          Posted 05 October 2011 - 09:16 PM


          Hi Steph,

          Their balance was due this week. They could possibly book later...although it would be great if they both can come, I would be happy with his stepbrother being able to come...he is his closest guy friend... Our real legal wedding will be back here anyways and they said that since it will be a month and a half after our wedding in Mexico, that they would try and make that one...

          Originally Posted by NamasteLotus 

          AM, sorry honey... totally a stressor, ...it would be nice if the family could help out... I don't know what I'd do if that happened to us.  We ended up helping a few of our close family/friends with some costs to help them get there, but we did it earlier on and now we're still stressed about stuff you didn't think about $$ .... if you got money from any showers or gifts, would you be willing to help them with their costs?... you have to ask yourself how bad do you want them there to take on that extra financial burden though.  Hopefully the family will help out with the costs... but for them they might be more concerned with saving that money to survive off rather than spend what they've been able to save and spend it to get there...it's a hard position to be in since they still have no guarantee at having a job when they come back?  If he found another job, would he be willing to rejoin?Can they wait any longer or do they need to cancel now to not lose anymore money?

           

           

           



           



          #865 MichCraw

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            Posted 06 October 2011 - 04:12 AM

            I understand this all too well ... my mother cancelled on us 2 weeks ago, on the day of the final deadline. No real explanation or anything.. she was sharing a room with another lady so I had to make last minute calls to this lady to tell her .. she was now single occupancy and it would cost here 350$ extra... well she wasn't too thrilled and could no longer afford to go so she cancelled. What a big mess it all was, I was really disappointed that my mother wouldn't be there, I am an only child both my parents aren't coming....I went from crazy excited to total crash in no time.



            #866 kat2012

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              Posted 06 October 2011 - 05:47 AM

              Ouch, that hurts :( I am really sorry to hear that you had to go throught that. My mom is not coming to my weddding too.

              But don't get upset, as long as your FI is there it's all what it matters. I will be taking my mom out with some other friends to Chateau Laurier for dinner, so at least she would have some kind of celebration. Maybe you can do something like that too, so she won't feel completely unincluded. I know you are probably upset and don't want to think about it, but she is your only mother and I am sure she had some serious reasons to not to come to your wedding.

               

              Originally Posted by MichCraw 

              I understand this all too well ... my mother cancelled on us 2 weeks ago, on the day of the final deadline. No real explanation or anything.. she was sharing a room with another lady so I had to make last minute calls to this lady to tell her .. she was now single occupancy and it would cost here 350$ extra... well she wasn't too thrilled and could no longer afford to go so she cancelled. What a big mess it all was, I was really disappointed that my mother wouldn't be there, I am an only child both my parents aren't coming....I went from crazy excited to total crash in no time.



               



              #867 hatfiehm

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                Posted 06 October 2011 - 08:07 AM



                ooh no Mich,

                Sorry to hear that.  *hugs* Family can make all this planning very difficult and emotions run high, but hope you are keeping your chin up.  FI and I decided when we pulled the trigger on a destination wedding that no matter what happened our outlook would be that if it was just the 2 of us SO BE IT.  Anyone else joining us was just a bonus.

                 

                Remember why you chose destination.  But in my humble opinion, I think its fair to share your disappointment with your mother since she let you down.  But only you can be the judge of that.

                Whatever you decide to do, I guaruntee she will regret not being there.  And in December, you will have your toes in the sand, drink in your hand....not a care in the world! 

                 

                xo

                Holly

                 

                Originally Posted by MichCraw 

                I understand this all too well ... my mother cancelled on us 2 weeks ago, on the day of the final deadline. No real explanation or anything.. she was sharing a room with another lady so I had to make last minute calls to this lady to tell her .. she was now single occupancy and it would cost here 350$ extra... well she wasn't too thrilled and could no longer afford to go so she cancelled. What a big mess it all was, I was really disappointed that my mother wouldn't be there, I am an only child both my parents aren't coming....I went from crazy excited to total crash in no time.



                 


                Holly


                #868 yunric

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                  Posted 06 October 2011 - 02:32 PM

                  Hi Everyone!

                  I am so stoked to be here! Our wedding is still about a year away but we are really close to booking our resort and sending STD. I have been lurking for a few weeks and everyone is so helpful!  I have a question, and forgive me if it has been answered.  I want to decorate with starfish, but can't find in Toronto, nor a website that will ship to Canada?  Have any of you found starfish in Canada?



                  #869 amjohnson

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                    Posted 06 October 2011 - 02:38 PM



                    Originally Posted by MichCraw 

                    I understand this all too well ... my mother cancelled on us 2 weeks ago, on the day of the final deadline. No real explanation or anything.. she was sharing a room with another lady so I had to make last minute calls to this lady to tell her .. she was now single occupancy and it would cost here 350$ extra... well she wasn't too thrilled and could no longer afford to go so she cancelled. What a big mess it all was, I was really disappointed that my mother wouldn't be there, I am an only child both my parents aren't coming....I went from crazy excited to total crash in no time.


                    Ouch, I am really sorry to hear that. My dad is coming with his new wife but we had to beg him to come...yes...beg..he said he had an important meeting conference so we changed the date so they could come. I found out from him last week, that his meeting was changed...imagine that! And..they are staying longer...we were glad they were only coming for 5 days as his new wife has been quite nasty to my sister and I. A good friend said to me, Weddings and Funerals bring the worst out of people...how true. My father also informed me last week that he can't help us out financially until Feburary.......ugggh...My mother passed away four years ago and I would love her to be there for my wedding date. The other brides are right, it is about you and your FI...but it still hurts when parents disappoint you. Hang in there!

                     



                    #870 Janet1480

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                      Posted 06 October 2011 - 05:44 PM

                      Hi Ladies,

                       

                      I wont say don't stress about family and friends not going cause as much as FI and I said it was about the 2 of us its definitely still dissapointing when ppl cancel or say they cant come :( so i will simply say to all of you going through this....its ok to be sad but dont let it ruin your experience. You will still be surrounded by people that love you and you will be in a beautiful setting with your hubby and you need to take in and enjoy every moment because it will all be over too fast. *hugs* to all of you

                       

                      On another note: i did my make up trial and photoshoot/BD shoot on Tuesday! i was nervous but by the end of it got more comfy. I'm nervous to see the pics! I should be getting them this wknd! eeeeeeeek. i leave in 16 days!!!


                      Married my soul mate and best friend on October 25th 2011 at Paradisus Punta Cana





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