tori - I say TAKE IT. you are under no obligation whatsoever to give the money back to the guests who were fully aware of the pricing before booking. sure, it would be a nice bonus if you get to your destination and someone hands you a $100 bill, but you know what I would do? give it right back to the bride and groom (and I'm very thrifty). it's your incentive for having so many people book, not an extra fee they were charged. it is fully yours, and I think you should be able to spend it how you wish (and that people would be delighted to hear that because so many of them came, they were able to furnish part of your expenses!) if I was one of your wedding guests and found out about it, I would think of it as a gift to you and would be happy for you to have it.
in our situation, we have several close people (FI's mom, sister) who may not be able to afford the vacation (read: not my slacker friends who don't manage their money well ; ). in that case, I may try to allocate some of the money to them ($1000?) to help offset costs, but it would also depend on the final bill.
but it's YOUR money to use however you see fit, and you should be congratulated for bringing such business to the travel agent/resort. you should be proud to have (and spend) it - no regrets!! : )
Originally Posted by torilynnsmith
Thanks ladies..... I still am not sure what we will do. I feel that if ANYONE found out they would not be impressed.... BUT like you said, it allows us to provide a better wedding for our guests!