Jump to content

Photo

Is it tacky??


  • Please log in to reply
70 replies to this topic

#61 katman

katman
  • Jr. Member
  • 170 posts

    Posted 12 May 2012 - 01:10 AM

    love the idea of making the AHR as much like the DW as possible....make those who couldn't make it feel especially welcome :)



    #62 Jamielynn55

    Jamielynn55
    • Jr. Member
    • 183 posts

      Posted 14 May 2012 - 06:50 PM

      I am totally wearing my dress again! <3 And my bridesmaids + all the guys too! i love this idea- wooo hooo for non-traditional (boring) weddings! :)  im also thinking i want another wedding cake too lol!! heres a question fior you ladies- for the AHR is it rude of me to register for gifts and put a registry card in with the invitation, i just want my guest to have an alternative to giving cash? im not having a bridal shower but we are doing a large AHR with favors and everything



      #63 acireta

      acireta
      • Site Supporter
      • 750 posts

        Posted 14 May 2012 - 07:09 PM

        I think it might be considered rude to include registry info on any invitation, AHR included. Put it on your website and let it spread by word of mouth. People will find it :-)

        I am totally wearing my dress again! <3 And my bridesmaids + all the guys too! i love this idea- wooo hooo for non-traditional (boring) weddings! :)  im also thinking i want another wedding cake too lol!! heres a question fior you ladies- for the AHR is it rude of me to register for gifts and put a registry card in with the invitation, i just want my guest to have an alternative to giving cash? im not having a bridal shower but we are doing a large AHR with favors and everything

        We did a big cocktail party for our AHR- cupcakes, open bar, buffet food, toasts, etc. My husband and I wore our wedding clothes and our groomsmen wore their shirts with their own suits (they wore khakis for the wedding). I am so glad I wore my dress, it was my last chance to enjoy it!

        Erica & Al - April 3, 2012 - St. Thomas, USVI

        Planning Thread

        Wedding & AHR Pics


        #64 katman

        katman
        • Jr. Member
        • 170 posts

          Posted 15 May 2012 - 10:06 AM

          Originally Posted by Jamielynn55 

          heres a question fior you ladies- for the AHR is it rude of me to register for gifts and put a registry card in with the invitation, i just want my guest to have an alternative to giving cash? im not having a bridal shower but we are doing a large AHR with favors and everything

           

           

          I've been wondering about this as well Jamielynn
          ...I know we are not expecting gifts, as those who are attending the DW will already be spending a lot to be part of our special day, but that does kind of leave those who are not attending the DW in an awkward position. I am not sure how I feel about putting a registry card in with the invitation, as that could be misinterpreted by some guests (especially those who will be present for the actual wedding), but I feel that many people will insist on doing gifts and may ask for registry information. So I think a registry is a great idea, just not sure how to present that information...wait until guests request it/use word of mouth, or make an official announcement. Hmm... Any past brides have words of advice?



          #65 shes2013

          shes2013
          • Newbie
          • 118 posts

            Posted 18 September 2012 - 09:30 AM

            I'm glad I came across the thread. I was worried about people judging on that too. You know what though, I said the hell with that. I'm doing what I want & celebrating how I choose. If people think its tacky, plain & simple don't come!



            #66 LAtravelgirl

            LAtravelgirl
            • Jr. Member
            • 163 posts

              Posted 28 October 2012 - 06:17 PM

              I wouldn't expect gifts from anyone not invited to the actual wedding. There has been a lot of shoo-shooing of etiquette mentioned, but no one would argue eating with your mouth open or other rules of etiquette are just opinions. As far as what can be worn, I have never heard of any hard fast rules on this, but I also haven't spent much time on other blogs. As far as putting registry cards in with the invite, I agree there are other ways to get the word out of where you are registered.



              #67 kmmathes

              kmmathes
              • Newbie
              • 83 posts

                Posted 29 January 2013 - 07:21 AM

                Good thread! I was wondering about how to delicately deal with the guests who didn't attend the DW (but were invited) and want to bring a gift to the AHR. We would be happy with cash! (or costco gift cards)



                #68 DiggityDawn

                DiggityDawn
                • Jr. Member
                • 167 posts
                • Wedding Location:Barcelo Maya Beach Resort
                • LocationRiviera Maya, Mexico

                Posted 12 February 2013 - 08:15 AM

                This has been a helpful thread, thank you ladies.
                 



                #69 TinkerSofi

                TinkerSofi
                • Sr. Member
                • 2,217 posts
                • Wedding Date:August 13, 2015
                • Wedding Location:Azul Fives Playa del Carmen
                • LocationCanada

                Posted 15 March 2013 - 10:45 AM

                Ettiquete is very subjective. Sure, some things you can't get away with, but DW are so new that what is the ettiquete anyways? Do what makes you happy :). I'm planning on wearing my dress as many times as I can! I'm having a small party at my house when we come back so I'll probably wear it then, and I'm having a reception in Argentina for my family that can't make it to Mexico so I'll wear the same dress again hahah.  Those things are too darn expensive to wear only once so to hell with that rule! Another tradition we're breaking is our bridal party, I'm having a maid of honor (my best friend) and a "man of honor" (my brother) while my fiance is having his two sisters by his side with no groomsmen. Sometimes these "rules" are meant to be broken. I think as long as you're not offending anyone you're good. I remember back for grad (I live in Canada so no proms here) everyone changed to jeans to go to the after party. I conformed and did the same as my friends and I always regretted it. My dress was beautiful, and expensive too, and I only wore it for like 2 hours. I'm never making that same mistake again, so my wedding dress will be worn until I squeeze all the juice out of it hahah. I'm not pretending to be the queen of England. I'm just having fun and doing what makes me happy, tacky or not. 

                 

                Some people are just so judgemental about weddings and they forget that you could have easily left them off your guest list and saved the money. They should be happy for you and happy to be sharing such a special day with you. 



                event.png

                 

                 


                #70 Romantic room

                Romantic room
                • Newbie
                • 1 posts

                  Posted 20 March 2013 - 12:53 PM

                  Hi girls,

                   

                  I agree on this one, is not tacky at all.  Not everybody can go to the destination wedding. AHR gives the opportunity for the ones that were not able to be there to celebrate with you and enjoy a magical night.

                   

                  Do not listen to the ones that think that is wrong or tacky, you are the one celebrating not them!






                  0 user(s) are reading this topic

                  0 members, 0 guests, 0 anonymous users