i still struggle with that part - about the really important people not coming. i started this post when it was almost the case that my FIs parents weren't coming. i couldn't handle the fact that it would be ONLY my friends and family there. finally, his parents booked which made me feel a lot better. also reading everyones replies on here made me feel better about all the other friends who said they were coming and then backed out. i was supposed to have between 30 - 40 people, now we have 17 including me and FI. Now i am completely fine with the number of people....though the part that still hurts sometimes is that one of my BMs just recently backed out - after she bought her dress and everything so she really had me believing she was coming! also, another super close friend backed out who supposed to officiate my ceremony in French! (FIs family is French and the Jamaican minister we are getting is English). so my friend was supposed to co-officiate. now we might have to pay $300 for an interpreter or just have an all english ceremony. i don't know what we are going to do yet. but its not the money issue that hurts, its that these 2 people will not be at wedding. i try to focus on my four BMs that ARE coming and how amazing that is and i have to realize that i can't have ALL of them. i should be (and most of the time i really am) just grateful for those who are coming. the one thing i know is that when i am there in Jamaica ON my wedding day, i am going to be blissfully happy and it will be the best day ever and the people that are there will make it amazing.
i didn't think once about changing my reception plans - i am still doing a private dinner and reception. the DJ comes with our bonfire package, so i am just keeping it as is. i wasn't planning on doing an AHR, but have been thinking more seriously about it,. problem is costs. if i do it, it will have to be a backyard affair.
Originally Posted by wilsonj2
I was really struggling with this for a while. I originally thought we would have close to 30 people, but now many people have backed out...some really important people that mean the world to me. My feelings were really hurt at first, but then I realized I was getting stressed over something I had no control over, and one of the reasons I chose a DW is because of the low-stress factor. Now I've just made up my mind that no matter who shows up, as long as my fiance is there, I am happy.
I had plans for the big dinner/reception, and I'm still planning to do the private dinner and reception. The only change is we won't rent a DJ now...just use the IPod. We will still do the first dance, but that is about the only formal thing, as we won't be having a wedding party (didn't want to place that pressure on people).