So, I'm trying to imagine me in your shoes... and this all happening to me...
and this is what I feel. In previous relationships, I would try to play it "cool"and be the 'cool" girlfriend who wasn't high maintainance or would be okay with certain things that other girls wouldn't be. Thus, I'd downplay my feelings. In the past, I think the old me would say, something like, "You know, I love my ring, and it doesn't matter what you spent on it, honey. The past is the past." But, I think the "now" me would honor my feelings and in this circumstance, my feelings are saying loudly --- "This doesn't seem right. Why would you spend double the money on your previous girlfriend, and half on me? I would explain all my feelings about how I'm not materialistic by any means but that it still does bother me. And that there's a chance whenever I look at my ring, I feel less important to you than she was to you, even though that seems really silly. And then I would totally take him up on upgrading the ring.
Is this materialistic? Maybe to an outside viewer... but really matters is your feelings. And who cares what others think about it... it's your life. And your lives together. Do you feel this way? Maybe, and maybe not. But if this was what I was feeling, then I'd definitely be honest about my feelings (caringly, of course). After all, if you can't be honest with your feelings now, before marriage, when can you be?? I hope this helps...
Okay ladies I need to know what you would do in this situation. My FI and I were talking about my ring today. He had bought a ring for another girl once but they broke up before he gave it to her. I have known that since before we were engaged. Somehow in conversation he mentioned that he spend more on her ring then he did on mine. I of course was not super happy about this. Especially when I found out he spend over double the amount on her ring. Now, I'm not very materialistic, but that hurts me because to me the man I marry should think I deserve the best right? He says he didn't like the ring he got her and liked the one he got me. But now since he knows he hurt me he said he has to upgrade my ring. If you found this out what would your reaction be? I tried the whole "it's not the ring I'm marrying" thing but to be honest I wouldn't mind something bigger. Ugh, after all this $$ stuff with my parents and I "materialistic me" needs a bigger ring?
Anyways... thoughts ladies? Tell me I'm not the only one that would feel this way?