I totally agree. My 1st ring was a beautiful 3-stone setting with pave down both sides. LOVED IT! Went to get it cleaned and a week later a stone fell out. While it was there to be repaired 12 stoned loosened up and they were reset as well. My ring was actually palladium, a softer metal. According to the jeweler, the industry had just began to see that it was too soft for some settings, particularly pave. They also advised me that pave was just more delicate to maintain, even in white gold. They suggested that I take it off while doing house work etc. When I gave it some thought, I decided I was not comfortable. I started having dreams about it and everything. I went and got a new ring and am very happy and feel very secure.
I understand your frustration but I would blame the jeweler so much. I was upset but as long as they can do something to accommodate you, that should be okay. Pave is a gorgeous setting and I truly love it. I just don't look at it as an everyday type ring. I hope it all works out.
AND NO I DO NOT THINK ITS BAD LUCK. POOR TIMING, BUT YOU AND YOUR MARRIAGE WILL BE FINE!