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#1 Future Mrs. M

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    Posted 03 June 2010 - 12:14 PM

    Hi Everyone!!

    We sent out our save the dates about a month and a half ago...
    So here is the story:
    We were relying heavily on our resort getting their chapel sanctioned/approved by the Catholic church..we found out a few weeks ago that it will not be possible to get this done before November. We had a back up but it is not ideal and so we went down this past weekend to check out more chapels.
    We found one that we absolutely fell in love with (Xcaret Assissi Chapel - it was on platinum weddings!)...the problem is that it's already booked for our date and the only time we would be able to use it is at 11am. The other option is if we change the date to 11/12th (Our date is 11/13th and that's what our save the dates say also).

    What are your thoughts on this?

    A)Should we go with the smaller chapel that is OK and keep our date?
    B)Should we go with the chaple we love, keep our date, but do it at 11am? (Our reception is at 6pm so not sure what we would do with our guests in between)

    C)Should we shift the day one day earlier?

    Let me know please!! FIs grandmother thinks it is not good to change the date at this point even if it's only one day. We love the chapel so not sure what to do.

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    #2 Miss Lighting Bug

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      Posted 03 June 2010 - 12:53 PM

      If guests are arriving from far off lands I would see if everyone would arrive in time to push your date up to the 12th. I am sure many people won't mind the slight change in plans. I would update your website, start getting family and friends to help with word of mouth, and love the fact you are getting a perfect location for your vows. Many people arrive early anyways and understand sometimes things pop up (even at home weddings). Then you can reinforce the new information on your invites.

      #3 hat0112

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        Posted 03 June 2010 - 04:19 PM

        Ohhh, that is a tough one. Did anyone make their reservations yet? I know you just sent out STDs, but I wasn’t sure if maybe immediate family or close friends already booked. If they did you might what to check with them about switching dates to see if it possible in case people were planning on arriving on the 12th. If no one booked and you aren’t attached to your date (our date is our anniversary and we wouldn’t change it) then I would move the date. It’s not like you are moving it by weeks or even a few days, just one. And it seems like you aren’t too excited about the chapel that is available. It’s your and your FI’s wedding so I say choose the chapel you guys want and go from there.
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        #4 tracy0716

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          Posted 03 June 2010 - 04:25 PM

          I would definitely go with the location you love for the ceremony. It's only a day and shouldn't be a problem as long as none of your guests have made reservations already that interfere with that date you should be fine. Your wedding isn't for another 5 months so I'm assuming the only people booked would be you and your FI and possibly your parents. Anyways, most of your guests will get there a few days early. Definitely check with those booked already and if it can be done switch your date and spread the word. I think your friends and family will understand once you explain your situation. Good luck!

          #5 barbiegirl_27

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            Posted 03 June 2010 - 04:39 PM

            I agree with the other ladies, go with the one you love, and if switching to one day earlier works for the guests who are booked, definitely go for it! really its just one day, who cares that you had a different date on your STD's! It's your wedding, and your day, and you should love everything about it!

            #6 LadyTrunck

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              Posted 03 June 2010 - 04:41 PM

              I was in the exact same position, except w/ my photographer. I sent out our STD's for July 6th, but then I found that she wasn't available. So I just let everyone know (no one had booked yet) and I put a pop up on our website that said not to pay attention to the STD's, and that 'due circumstances beyond our control, the date had to be pushed back by one day'.

              I wanted my photog more than anything! And I think you should have the same w/ the chapel. But as the others said, check to see if anyone was potentially leaving on that date. Otherwise- go for it!
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              #7 JanineA

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                Posted 03 June 2010 - 05:29 PM

                Hi I already posted in the November brides thread answering this but will post a brief synopsis of what my friend did. She ran into a similar situation where she had to have her wedding at a particular historic mansion her reception was set for 6. She had the wedding (it took 2 hours cause it was an orthrodox Jewish wedding), then we all had lunch (which was cheaper than a dinner reception). Guests mingled for about an hour then they invited every one to relax (you can use siesta since yours will be in Mexico) everyone changed (for the Jewish ceremony we couldn't show skin out of respect but the reception was not Jewish so many of the ladies got more comfortable and the guys too). When we returned at 6 it was open bar and fun stations with Appetizer sized bites. Everyone was refreshed and ready to party. I actually stayed all the way through since I was her BM. On the break while others left to change we were taking photos with the pro photographer and we helped set up the reception since we knew exactly how to execute her vision. Then we returned to the room dressed down in matching casual dresses and returned to party. Hope this helps give you an idea and maybe you won't have to change your date after all.

                #8 *Krista*

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                  Posted 03 June 2010 - 05:36 PM

                  I agree with the other ladies. And if your guests already have their bookings and it conflicts with changing your date to a day earlier, then I say go with the 11am ceremony time.
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                  #9 LA923

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                    Posted 03 June 2010 - 05:43 PM

                    I agree, if anyone has booked, just move it up to 11 a.m. I'm sure your guests will find all sorts of things to do between the wedding and the reception. Don't sweat it.

                    #10 Sax Lady

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                      Posted 03 June 2010 - 10:09 PM

                      I had the same problem. I had everything set and then decided to move mine up a day and even some people had already booked but it still wasnt a problem because they were coming a few days early. I first had it set for saturday then switched it too friday and everyone is coming on thursday so it wasnt a problem. I say if you really want the chapel I would go for the day early it should be too much of a problem since its just one day, but like the other ladies said I would let everyone know.

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