Posted 10 May 2010 - 10:42 AM
Well Sunday FI's parents are mad because they have already booked a space at a park for a BBQ with 300 people! When they told me I just started crying. Its so NOT what I want and I've explained it so many times that I can't believe they've done it anyway. My anxiety level is so high I'm afraid I will make myself sick. FI knows how I feel, but thinks its the same idea, and doesn't think that many people will come, so I should just let them do it because weddings are for the family, not just us. But I disagree because everything has been about his mom from the very beginning.
I don't know what to do. Just needed to vent!!
Posted 10 May 2010 - 11:38 AM
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Posted 10 May 2010 - 02:50 PM
If you FMIL already booked the space then tell her you only want a small amount of ppl there if all you want is 50 say 30 because we all know how some people like to over invite and sit down with her and make the list and let her know that you would really like it to be an intimate setting.
Posted 10 May 2010 - 04:31 PM
I hope you manage to sort it out xx
Posted 07 June 2010 - 09:58 PM
We already have alot of issues. So I feel if I told her no and insisted on it, it would completely distroy our relationship.
You're not alone.
Posted 08 June 2010 - 07:43 AM
Posted 08 June 2010 - 08:32 AM
Posted 08 June 2010 - 09:35 AM
I think you need to go throught with what you and your fianc© want. It's your day, after all!
Posted 16 January 2011 - 11:28 AM
Tell her its YOUR day and to back off! If you don't want a lot of people, then so be it! That angers me that she's sabatoging what you want!
I would do it how you want and send out your own invitations for whatever and wherever you like!
Hang in there sista!
Posted 27 March 2011 - 02:42 PM
Hey Ladies. I find myself in a similar position, but its my mother...not mother-in-law who has her own ideas about the reception. I have pulled back completely from sharing details with her for now (we still have lots of time to go) and politely told her that a whole other wedding back at home was neither in our budget NOR in our plans. I told her that the reception was on the back burner for now and that it would be a casual celebration. She seems to have backed off for now. I initially tried to explain to her our reasons for wanting a destination wedding, but that didnt work very well. She seems to have her own agenda, or feel that a wedding is mostly for the family. Shes even insinuated that we are doing what our friends want, but not our family. For me personally, its about a celebration of our commitment to each other. Others being there is just a bonus. I feel for you! Keep your chin up!
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