Aww...I'm so sorry. It is so hard because of course you want all the important people in your life there. On one hand, you did give more than enough notice. On the other hand, it is expensive and some people just can't afford it. If she is one of your closest friends, I'm sure she put a lot of thought into how she could make it work and it must have been hard for her to tell you she can't go. She can still be a part of your wedding by helping you plan, shop etc. Are you having anything at home before or after the wedding?
I had one BM drop out so far. My sister is my MOH, but a very unrelialbe person. Despite having over a year to plan for this expense, I can really see her not showing up. My FI has not asked any guys to be in the wedding yet. He wants to wait to see which of his friends are going so he doesn't make the feel obligated. It's a good chance that I will wind up with 4 out of 6 BM with his 1 GM.
Everything will work out. I think the important part to remember is that all of this is about the two of you. After your big day is over, all you will remember is how happy and beautiful everything was.
Originally Posted by CynLovesLuis
So I came online bright and early this morning because I am devastated. Too bad there isn't a smiley/emoticon that is hysterical crying because that's what I need right now.
I started off with 8 BMs, all my bestest friends of my LIFE, and my FH has 9 ushers ... yeah he asked one more person without checking with me about the count...
anyways in the past month, i've had two BMs back out on me because it's "too expensive" for them. The second being just this morning. I'm so incredibly sad, I just cannot picture my day without them. I don't know what to do and I can't help but think there are still more than 9 months to go!!! there is plenty of time to save!!! but what do I know, I don't know their budgets or if they have left over to save. neither of them have the most stable job on the universe... im just heartbroken and don't have the heart to even debate anything with them...i mean, i don't feel right doing so...but at the same time i feel like writing--look, you have x amount of months, just put away x amount of dollars to save, etc etc... Now FH has 9 ushers and I have 6. @&#$!($^&
help me feel better please