The Parental Contribution Vent!
Posted 27 January 2010 - 04:52 PM
Well now it's my turn to get married! I know that we shouldn't automatically expect anything from our parents and that we should all be responsible for our own weddings. But in this situation, we were kind of thinking that we could count on this money from my Mom and StepDad because it's what they told us when the other boys were getting married and that everyone would be getting the same. Well they should have perhaps stipulated that it "had to be a traditional wedding" because we were discussing it the other day and they said that since our wedding was going to cost them money to get there, they were not giving us that set amount! WHATTTT. How is that fair? Did they get a one week all inclusive holiday at a beautiful resort when giving the other boys money for their wedding?
I'm just venting here...This is one more case of him favouring his kids over my moms kids and I just think that if his last kid got married in a destination wedding, he would gladly write out his cheque! Should I say anything to my mom or just leave it? I don't want to cause a big family fight but at the same time, I just feel like it's very unfair to me and my FI. It's our wedding and we should be able to do it our way...
Posted 27 January 2010 - 05:15 PM
Just so you're aware, your gifts will probably be smaller too, if you even recieve any. As great as it is to give people an excuse to go to a tropical location for a week, it's still a lot of money to pay for a vacation they didn't plan themselves.
Posted 27 January 2010 - 05:47 PM
My parents wouldn't in a million years travel to the Caribbean if it weren't for our wedding and while I'm certain they'll end up enjoying themselves, I do feel it is a lot to ask of people to spend their vacation time at a place and at a rate you have dictated.
However, if your step-dad were to give his other children the same amount if they were doing a DW, then that's just not right...
Posted 27 January 2010 - 05:49 PM
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Posted 27 January 2010 - 08:52 PM
The $$$ I received from my mom, was them coming to my wedding. I personally would rather have had my parents at my wedding then cash in my hand.
How do you think he's "favoring" his kids over you? You think that it's fair that your parents have to to dish out prob close to $3+ grand to come to your wedding PLUS whatever you feel you're entitled to because that's what they gave your siblings??
While I understand your vent, it didn't cost your parents money to go to your step-siblings' wedding(s).
At the end of the day, be happy that your parents want to come and share your day with you!
Sorry if that's too honest, but you really have to take a minute and put this into perspective.
Posted 28 January 2010 - 11:03 AM
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