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#11 rodent

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    Posted 14 July 2007 - 09:22 PM

    I think we might have 30-40 people. We are going to have dinner in one of the hotel restaurants together. I don't know yet what we'll do afterwards. I'm hoping that Saturday is karaoke night at the hotel. A lot of our guests love karaoke. If not, there is always something going on it sounds like. We could hang out at the hotel lounge or by the pool. My dress is really casual so I won't feel strange mixed in with the other hotel guests. There is a disco at the hotel that opens at 11pm. I want to stay at the hotel, because I know some of our older guests wouldn't enjoy going out somewhere in the town.

    I've talked to other people who got married at the same place. One person told me she didn't plan a private meal or reception for 30 guests & it worked out great. Until hearing that I was a little worried it would be awkward.

    I'm trying to keep my budget around $3000 (including everything), but I still want everyone to be great for my guests. Hopefully I can pull it off.

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      Posted 15 July 2007 - 09:22 AM

      hugs hugs hugs..................im so happy your feelig better...........you need to do what makes you to happy and if not to many people go then there loss.....also if not to many people go make an smaller dinner i think that what tammyb did and had a wonderfultime....no worries it will be amazing.......
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      #13 verrow23

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        Posted 15 July 2007 - 11:50 AM

        I'm glad to hear that I am not the only that feels that their friends and family have too much going on to care about our wedding planning. I have 10 girlfriends that I'm very close to and they all have had serious relationships for at least 5 years. My fiance and I have been together for 3 years and we're getting married, so I feel a bit awkward talking about the wedding with some of them since they've BEEN expecting a ring for some time! So I generally don't bring up the wedding unless I'm asked about it. I'm glad I can turn to this forum! I'm still new but I LOVE this site!
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        #14 jak27

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          Posted 15 July 2007 - 11:59 AM

          Oh Michelle, I completely understand where you're coming from...I have the same problems as well. Every now & then I just get this fear that no one is going to come, and we're spending all of this time and effort on the wedding for just our parents basically...AH!

          But then I have to just remember, we wanted a DW (although we were totally going to elope, but I'm an only child and my parents would have been really sad), and we decided to do it this way, so who comes is who comes. It is what it is.

          But I'm so glad you're feeling better! Keep your wishes in your mind, and stay strong to it. Don't let anything sway you from what you and your FI want to do!

          #15 michelle08

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            Posted 15 July 2007 - 01:31 PM

            Quote:
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            Oh Michelle, I completely understand where you're coming from...I have the same problems as well. Every now & then I just get this fear that no one is going to come, and we're spending all of this time and effort on the wedding for just our parents basically...AH!

            But then I have to just remember, we wanted a DW (although we were totally going to elope, but I'm an only child and my parents would have been really sad), and we decided to do it this way, so who comes is who comes. It is what it is.

            But I'm so glad you're feeling better! Keep your wishes in your mind, and stay strong to it. Don't let anything sway you from what you and your FI want to do!
            That's it exactly...not that our parents don't deserve a nice time...but a nice time can still be had without spending a fortune.. :)

            And you are right..i mean if we are willing to elope with no one there then it shouldn't really matter so much if certain people aren't there huh? :)

            "It is what it is" I use that all the time...I love it! :)

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            Posted 15 July 2007 - 01:47 PM

            when we picked out date we got alot of slack as well...it wasnt a good time for GM because work was busy...a niece was MAYBE going to graduate from highschool...i say maybe because we weren't susre since she sort of decided not to go anymore.

            but we were like screw it...if they can't make it, they can't make it. we were prepared just to have immedialte family at our wedding (10-15 people).

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            #17 A10CalGal

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              Posted 16 July 2007 - 12:46 PM

              Michelle - I'm glad to see you've gained some excellent perspective since your post from all the lovely ladies here. This whole issue is pretty much an intregal part of planning a DW...I think every single one of us that is now married can relate. And it's really hard to let it go, but save your sanity & try to set the whole thing free. Those that make it to your wedding are the ones that were meant to be there. And, really, it is all about celebrating the start of you new life w/your hubby!! Good luck on maintaining this new perspective!!

              #18 NATASHA

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                Posted 16 July 2007 - 01:43 PM

                Michelle,

                Maybe, on your invitations, you can state something like, "we're eloping and we'd love it if you could be there". I know it's symantics, but if you think of this like an elopement with guests, maybe that will get you closer to what you're looking for and help your guests relax a bit as well so they can shift in their minds that it's less like a wedding production and more like a couple sneaking away and you're invited.
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                #19 rodent

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                  Posted 16 July 2007 - 02:42 PM

                  Quote:
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                  Michelle,

                  Maybe, on your invitations, you can state something like, "we're eloping and we'd love it if you could be there". I know it's symantics, but if you think of this like an elopement with guests, maybe that will get you closer to what you're looking for and help your guests relax a bit as well so they can shift in their minds that it's less like a wedding production and more like a couple sneaking away and you're invited.
                  I agree. This is how we are trying to think of it. That way you don't feel like you owe your guest some huge production. I think most people are excited about the vacation anyway.

                  #20 michelle08

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                    Posted 16 July 2007 - 04:18 PM

                    Thanks Natasha...that is a good way to look at it...I will have to highly consider that... :)




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