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#1 indy_chic

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    Posted 31 December 2009 - 01:31 AM

    Are any of you finding that some of your invitees are coming up with any/all excuses to not attend your DW?

    Why can't people simply say "We just can't afford to attend " ? ?

    I know a dw is not for everyone but I could really appreciate a little honesty .

    #2 KRama

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      Posted 31 December 2009 - 01:42 AM

      Oh yes, I've heard it all from "I can't afford it" to "I'm boycotting the Mexican tourism industry" (seriously, I wish I was joking on that one!). We had a few surprises with our group. People we thought for sure would be there can't make it and others are coming that we never thought would! Bottom line, the people that do come will make your wedding amazing and those that don't might send you a really nice gift. :)

      #3 amygirl1169

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        Posted 31 December 2009 - 01:58 AM

        Yep, I think that's a pretty common theme for DW brides!
        We should start a thread with the most ridiculous excuses people have given not to attend their wedding.
        For the most part the only person that's been forthright with telling me why they aren't coming has been my uncle and he pretty much just said 'Hell no, I'm not going down there!' But meanwhile his wife said forget you, I'm going!

        Otherwise, my friends that (surprisingly) I don't think will be coming basically just avoided me like the plague when I was trying to get rsvp's for the initial booking. It was really weird... so many people had so much input and seemed like they were for sure coming but when it came to putting down a deposit they were no where to be found!

        Oh well, c'est la vie! We still have about 35 people coming, so it just makes things less expensive for us!

        #4 FutureMsMoulton

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          Posted 31 December 2009 - 03:05 AM

          I had a suppose to be bridesmaid pick a fight with me and is no longer talking to me because she can't afford it and didn't want to tell me.

          #5 poohshek

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            Posted 31 December 2009 - 03:22 AM

            Ditto!!! Bottom line was we gave everyone much advanced notice and we couldn't make guests come to our wedding if they didn't want to. Party was a blast with HAPPY & EXCITED GUESTS!!!
            People we thought for sure would be there can't make it and others are coming that we never thought would! Bottom line, the people that do come will make your wedding amazing and those that don't might send you a really nice gift. :)


            #6 vdaybride

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              Posted 31 December 2009 - 03:47 AM

              Same here.. people avoid you, blame it on "the economy" .... I have heard it all. The people that mean the most to you hopefully will be there for you and the rest..screw them..sorry that was a bit harsh after re reading it, but you know what I mean :)
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              #7 poohshek

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                Posted 31 December 2009 - 03:49 AM

                A few of our "close" friends never RSVP or congratulated us before/after the wedding. We have been scratching our heads wondering if they think we are contagious.

                #8 SusieQ

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                  Posted 31 December 2009 - 05:02 AM

                  Yeah.... I hear you ladies,
                  I think my best excuse was from FI stepfather... He said he wasn't going because he doesn't believe we're taking marriage seriously because we're getting married on a beach and not in the Catholic Church. At least he is honest and told us from day one... It's the people that can not be honest that drives me nuts.

                  #9 indy_chic

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                    Posted 31 December 2009 - 12:00 PM

                    Quote:
                    Originally Posted by amygirl1169
                    Yep, I think that's a pretty common theme for DW brides!
                    We should start a thread with the most ridiculous excuses people have given not to attend their wedding.
                    For the most part the only person that's been forthright with telling me why they aren't coming has been my uncle and he pretty much just said 'Hell no, I'm not going down there!' But meanwhile his wife said forget you, I'm going!

                    Otherwise, my friends that (surprisingly) I don't think will be coming basically just avoided me like the plague when I was trying to get rsvp's for the initial booking. It was really weird... so many people had so much input and seemed like they were for sure coming but when it came to putting down a deposit they were no where to be found!

                    Oh well, c'est la vie! We still have about 35 people coming, so it just makes things less expensive for us!


                    The Plague lol - when you think about it , that's exactly what it feels like. In the weeks and months leading up to our announcement, friends/family were asking all the time - when/where. Once we sent our invites out - NO ONE brings anything up anymore.

                    At Christmas dinner (his side) , not one family member brought up the wedding, other than to comment on the awesomeness of the invites.
                    Friends that I thought would come, have RSVP'd with better things to do and haven't even called to congratulate us !!! How bizarre !!!

                    Trying to not let it all get me down, but you can't help but to be disappointed just a little bit.

                    #10 mrscheeze

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                      Posted 31 December 2009 - 12:17 PM

                      when we originally planned the wedding everyone we know was gung ho about coming and couldnt wait... we even had over 50 people put down deposits right away lol... i know the wedding isnt until october but people are already starting to back out saying that christmas "killed" them this year..... whatever as long as my FI and daughter are there it will be the best day ever




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