I'm sad and need to vent!!

[PVBride]

Okay - here is my vent for the month!

 

We have rented out an entire (small) hotel for our wedding week. The cost is $800 per person for five nights. This also includes open bar, breakfasts and entertainment. Not to mention, my parents are paying for three dinners throughout the week. My fiance and I also bought our wedding party plane tickets to help ease their costs.

 

SOOO here lies the problem. MOH booked her room two months ago. All of a sudden, she e-mails me and says that she is going to cancel her room and find a cheaper place to stay. My feelings are really hurt. Especially since I have already bought her plane ticket to help her financially! And, if she cancels, we will ultimatley be responsible for her room until it is filled by someone else. (I should also mention, that she isn't coming to our engagement party b/c she has "other plans.")

 

I know that I am over-sensitive about some things, but would this upset you?? What would you do?

[TammyB]

Hmm if she can't afford it, then I guess I can see why she may want to find a cheaper place. If it's in your means, maybe offer to help pay for her stay at the place you booked.

[LisaG]

Wow! That would totally hurt my feelings too, but as everyone knows, I had to fire my MOH, so I'm not very happy with MOH's right now!! That really sucks that she is doing this to you, especially after you paid for her airfare....so sorry!

[JaimeLynne]

Oh no Jackie!!!! That would totally upset me. I'm really sensitive about those things as well.

 

At first when I opened this thread I thought you were gonna say you couldn't have your wedding at Playa Fiesta and I was like "NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO...o oooo...oooooo..." LOL So I'm glad to hear it's not that, but still that totally sucks! You have every right to feel that way. She is your MOH and you need her there!!! Especially since you've already offered to pay for her plane ride. Man, that just stinks.

[Jessalyn]

I'd be upset too about the room and the other plans that she has during your engagement party.

 

If you divide out the $800 over 5 nights it is $160 a night. Where does she plan to stay for less than that and with breakfast and drinks included? ...and, you paid for her airfare. Did you ask her where she plans to stay? ...that's just weird that she wants to stay somewhere else away from your other guests.

 

I'm sorry!

[beckyandbrian]

That is absolutely wrong!! Yes, you have every right to be upset and you should be! It is hard enough when guests want to stay at another hotel because you worry about accomodating them & spending time with them if they are not at your hotel or resort. We're not having a wedding party, but my sister is telling me that they are going to stay at another hotel as is my FI's parents (if they go now!! - whole other story) and I was extremely upset and hurt at first, but just realized that there was nothing I can do about it and it would only inconvenience them because I won't be running around to vist every guest at every hotel - that is for sure. The worst thing about your situation is not only are they a part of your wedding party which makes it quite difficult, you have paid for their flights!?! You guys are absolute saints and your MOH should be sooooo grateful that you are helping at all.

 

Just remember this: you will not and cannot please everyone...just please yourselves! It's YOUR day!

 

Hang in there,

Becky

[PVBride]

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Originally Posted by JaimeLynne Oh no Jackie!!!! That would totally upset me. I'm really sensitive about those things as well. At first when I opened this thread I thought you were gonna say you couldn't have your wedding at Playa Fiesta and I was like "NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO...o oooo...oooooo..." LOL So I'm glad to hear it's not that, but still that totally sucks! You have every right to feel that way. She is your MOH and you need her there!!! Especially since you've already offered to pay for her plane ride. Man, that just stinks.

Ha, ha! Now that would be REALLY REALLY sad!!

[1elephant]

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Originally Posted by CABOBRIDE200 I'd be upset too about the room and the other plans that she has during your engagement party. If you divide out the $800 over 5 nights it is $160 a night. Where does she plan to stay for less than that and with breakfast and drinks included? ...and, you paid for her airfare. Did you ask her where she plans to stay? ...that's just weird that she wants to stay somewhere else away from your other guests. I'm sorry!

ohhhh, good call...where will she stay for less? if i was in your shoes, i'd certainly be upset - esp. b/c she's a MOH - but, i'd tell her "fine, i understand, but i don't know where you'll find lower rates, plus, now you'll be responsible for transportation back and forth."

i'd also tell her that she's responsible for filling that room...it's certainly not fair of her to leave you with that responsibility...you have enough to deal with.

[JaimeLynne]

Jessalyn brought up a good point - where is she going to stay for less than $160/night w/breakfast & drinks included? And why would she want to stay by herself anyways??

 

Also missing the engagement party is just odd. Did she say what her "other plans" are?? She is your MOH for heaven's sake! Sheesh! I think they need to make some MOH classes LOL

[PVBride]

Thanks for all of your advice, girls! I seriously feel much better. Sometimes it helps just to get it all out I don't think she will find anything much cheaper either, so I guess I will just let her find that out herself. I will keep you updated on the situation!