rude BM or just being helpful?
Posted 28 December 2009 - 09:23 PM
Perhaps you could tell Mr. & Mrs. Know-It-All that you ansolutely want to be surprised about the resort and see it through your own eyes first... that way it won't make things too awkward so they'll back off.
Posted 28 December 2009 - 09:36 PM
Posted 28 December 2009 - 10:31 PM
We just planned a family trip to hawaii. Everyone was supposed to arrive on the same day with some people staying longer than others. My SIL got a great deal to arrive two days earlier & just couldn't pass it up. Sometimes you just plan your trip around the fares.
Posted 28 December 2009 - 10:54 PM
I will have been planning and researching for close to a year and a half by the time we finally go to our DW in Jamaica in May, and although I wouldn't do ANYTHING to make my guests uncomfortable, I would also hope that I could be the one to sort of "show everyone the ropes" like Morgan said! Maybe I'm childish for saying this, but even though they mean well, I would still feel irritated that they might be trying to tell ME about something I should, as the bride, know better than them!
And, after seeing some of my family members at Christmas that will be going, I think a few of the them may indeed be arriving a few days before us (which is fine because I don't think they're they type to step on my toes -- frankly, I think they just want to drink and relax on the beach!) but I FEEL WHERE YOU ARE COMING FROM, SISTER!!
Just tell your Mom and FI to sort of play it by ear....maybe once your friends actually see you when they show up, they will sort of back down, now that the BRIDE AND GROOM have arrived!!!
BEST WISHES, LOVE and I hope they can realize that this trip is more than just a vacation to you -- it's your wedding, and since they spent money to be there to share this with you, the LAST THING they should want to do is try to upstage you or make your and your FI tense!
Posted 28 December 2009 - 10:55 PM
I think that you should tell the couple that is going before you that a few pictures would be okay, since you have most likely seen many pics of your resort anyway (trip advisor, etc)... this way, they can still feel like they are getting to counsel you about the resort but they aren't going overboard. If they give recommendations about places to eat, that would be fantastic IMO! Whats worse than going to an ala carte that sucks only to have to go to the buffet right after?
At the same time, you should gently let them know that you do want to have some surprises during your wedding week and don't want to know everything since thats half the fun! I'm SURE they will understand!
Posted 29 December 2009 - 01:54 AM
You might need to have a united approch about how you both can be happy and relaxed for your wedding. This way you keep this small stuff from causing any unnecessary stress between the two of you.
Good Luck and Have Fun!!
Posted 29 December 2009 - 02:21 AM
I might tell them that you want to explore the resort yourself and form your own opinions when you and FI get ther. If you want thier opinions when you get there fine, if you disagree, do whatever you want for YOUR wedding with out worring about their opinions.
Posted 29 December 2009 - 08:10 AM
why did they not just stop the week after your wedding?some people.
Posted 30 December 2009 - 02:42 AM
But the point is they are there right now, and actually, my friend has been pretty good - no texts or emails, not even that much on FB other than her posting something about everything being 'irie'...lol. So I think she got the point...especially when I told her not to tell me anything right on her FB page!
I do have to form a united front with FI...sometimes I think he gets kind of jealous that I am so close with my BM and perhaps that is the underlying problem here.
Oh, and no we are not staying an extra week. Which again is another thing...like...they get to experience a 2 week vacay and we, the ones who are actually getting married, only have the 1 week. Hmmm. Doesn't seem fair!
Posted 30 December 2009 - 10:32 AM
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