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Do I have to bring my future MIL dress shopping?

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Thanks ladies for all of your advice! You've made me feel a lot better about my decision to go with just my MOH and bridesmaid. I believe my mom would be hurt if I went with my future MIL and she was unable to come. Plus I don't have a close relationship with my future MIL at all!

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I don't think you need to invite your future MIL at all. Especially if you are not close with her!

 

My future MIL has 2 sons and just wants to be included in wedding planning, when possible. So I went shopping with my mom and sisters and narrowed down my choices, then I invited my future MIL to come along on a separate shopping trip so she felt included. My FI told me I got big points for that one! But I think you should only do what you feel comfortable with. It is your wedding after all. And it only happens once!

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I did not include my FMIL when I went dress shopping and I don't see anything wrong with her not being included. To each their own but I think it is unnecessary. Tell her you wouldn't feel right having her go with you while not having your own mother in attendance (which would be awkward).

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It really depends on you. If you just want your MOH and BM's than that is OK. I took all my BM's, mom, and fmil dress shopping. Now looking back my FMIL was a bit over the top. Like she would be nope that is the dress the other ones are no's. Her opinions were "better" than everyone elses and I didnt like it that much.

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I am glad you have decided to go with what YOU wanted.

 

I was leary about this too because I knew my FMIL would want to come, but I did NOT want her there, without even considering how she has been really negative about the whole wedding I just wanted it to be me and my mom so I could make a decision and get the dress I knew I loved. She expressed how that hurt her feelings but I just explained how I always have (prom & such) gone dress shopping with my mom and that she would be invited to the fitting if she would like to come. I am really glad I stuck with what I wanted instead of trying to please her!

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I didn't invite my Future MIL. I don't really feel that close to her. I did live 2.5 to 3 hours from my mom though, and we met half way to go dress shopping. I took pictures there, so i could still get my BM's and MOH's opinion. I wouldnt feel bad for not inviting her though, especially if you are not going with your mom.

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this probably sounds bad but i didn't even think to ask her to come or FI's stepmom. when i went shopping with my mom it was decided last minute that day. i'm glad no one else came with us (even friends) cuz i was so overwhelmed by the experience. i couldn't imagine having everyone's opinion coming at me during that experience. plus we got my dress 4hrs away from where she lives.

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