Engagement Party Purpose?
Posted 12 October 2009 - 06:05 PM
I have always thought that engagement parties were solely for people grubbing for more presents. In my circle they are frowned upon as just another way to get more presents, and usually only people with money have them and they are at a catering hall. My sister's friends engagement party was like a mini wedding! It cost over $7,000 and had 3 courses and a cocktail hour! That is out of the question b/c that is the budget for my entire wedding!
My aunt was talking to me today and said that she hoped I would have one so that the families could get to meet each other before the wedding. I had not thought about that part before... I have a large family with a lot of aunt's and uncles and they have only met my FI's family on sad occasions. My aunt offered her backyard (which is pretty nice but now it is getting cold out) and plus we got engaged in July.
Is it too late because we have been engaged for 4 months?
Is there a way I could have an engagement party without appearing that I am grubbing for presents?
If I write "no gifts" on the invite will people still feel obligated?
I would love to have one just so our families could get to know each other, but should I just not bother or have something with just the families? so confused please help! p.s. I am from NY is it like this in other parts of the country?
Posted 12 October 2009 - 07:15 PM
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Posted 15 October 2009 - 07:03 PM
I ask people very polity and nicely for no gifts. I think I got 1 gift card for a restaurant and 1 bottle of sparkling wine.
I don't think it's to late to have one, I think it would be a really nice way for both families to get together to know each other before the wedding (So at the wedding they will all know each other!)
Let us know if you decide to have one!!
Posted 15 October 2009 - 07:59 PM
Well, it looks like you are getting next summer so I would think you would have family members on both sides throwing you bridal showers. I had 4 "family" bridal showers and one "couples" shower. My FMIL, my aunts (dad's family), my aunts (mom's family), my aunts (stepdads family). I was pretty lucky! My families got along great and it was alot of FUN!
I bet you will get someone in your families to throw you a bridal shower. Hang in there!
Posted 15 October 2009 - 08:09 PM
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