The Ever Shrinking Guest List...It finally got to me!
Posted 11 September 2009 - 10:36 AM
I am just venting today...I finally went through my guest list and cleaned it up with a few RSVP's and I just broke down.
I know most of you might think it's crazy, we have 28 RSVP's including us. It's just who is coming and who isn't that got to me. It's not the recession at all that's had an effect, it's just poor timing.
Some of our best friends, and we only have a few close ones, can't make it because of very important things like:
-Bought a new house
-Had a Baby
-Planning their own wedding next year
-Family Member is very sick and not given much time(terrible news from one of our groomsmen)
It just hurts that people we care so much about aren't going to be there. After all the planning and hard work I really wanted to share this with them.
We've discussed having an AHR but it's just not in the budget for us.
Anyhow I think I just need to be sad today and hopefully get over it quickly....Thanks for listening!
Posted 11 September 2009 - 10:43 AM
Posted 11 September 2009 - 10:49 AM
You are definitely NOT alone. I would say that 95% of DW couples do not have all the "important" people there. Personally, I had 23 people...and probably half of them I would have traded for people that I wish could have made it. I know that probably sounds terrible...I am really grateful that those people took the time, effort, and money to celebrate with us, I just wish other people would have as well. And a lot of my "important people" didnt even have the good excuses yours did!!
Hang in there girl - you'll get through this. I'm not saying its not going to happen again! But just know that we are here for you to vent!
Posted 11 September 2009 - 11:11 AM
Hang in there ... at least you know they would be there if they could, and that they aren't giving some bogus excuse to not attend.
Posted 11 September 2009 - 11:19 AM
Hang in there, we all understand and are here when you need to vent and let it out!
Posted 11 September 2009 - 11:55 AM
Posted 11 September 2009 - 11:56 AM
- my FI dad and step mom
- my FI sister and brother in law
- my FI step dad
- one of my sisters
I'm just happy that the people who are coming will be there to support us and celebrate!! :-) Thats all you have to focus on! Maybe you could have a party at your house when you get home, in celebration of your wedding, doesn't have to be extravagent! Good luck
Posted 11 September 2009 - 12:09 PM
When we first got engaged, we tossed around the idea of a destination wedding to those that are closest to us and got nothing but fantastic responses. We've since sent out our save-the-dates (with estimated costs) and are still getting great replies. It'll be a whole different story I'm sure when the actual invites go out. It'll be interesting to see who was all talk. We know that the 10 most important people to us will be there, if they couldn't make it, we probably wouldn't even have a destination wedding! Anyone will will just be a great bonus!
Posted 11 September 2009 - 12:13 PM
Posted 11 September 2009 - 12:18 PM
My mom knew how important our wedding was for my family (his family is all in DR) so she paid for us to have an actual ceremony/lunch boat cruise at home. I wasn't super fond of getting married for real here and then in DR but it meant so much to so many people that it was worth it. I'm the first grandchild on both sides of my family and both of my grandmothers aren't doing great (both grandfather's have passed) so it was wonderful for them.
You can do something at home to include the important people it doesn't have to be a big event. If you can fit in the the budget have you DW taped by a videographer and show it at the party.
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